I'm 29 and teach painting and drawing in college. I get along with my students really well. A couple have expressed interest in keeping in touch after class, etc. I'm anywhere from 5 to 10 years older than them. And if you need a religious dimension to the question in order not to report me, this is a Christian college. What do you think, wise ethicists?
2006-12-01 13:38:34 · 20 answers · asked by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The operable word here being 'former', I'd say there's nothing at all wrong with it. Although, if you're talking about kids in their late teens who may still view you as somewhat of an authority figure, then it'd probably be best to just forget about it.
2006-12-01 13:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unethical for you to date a current student due to the assymetrical power relationship. If that power relationship has ended, then I see no reason to consider dating to be unethical.
The scenario has happened many times before. I know a women who married their professors and are happy. A 5 year difference in age is pretty common, and a 10 year difference in age is no big deal. (My wife is 7 years younger than me.)
FYI I don't see why your college being a Christian college matters, but then again I'm an atheist. My ethics are secular. Is there a reason why in this case that Christian morals would look down on this?
2006-12-01 14:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jim L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are former students of the college (and not just of your class), then I'd say it's fine.
I'd check with your college's rules about it, but I see no reason why they'd have rules against former students of the college.
If they were not in your class, but still at the college, I think that could pose problems, trigger gossip, and just be an all-around bad idea.
I personally don't date people younger than myself - I wouldn't *totally* rule it out, but I have found that they naturally are in a different stage in life and want different things.
But, other than personal preferences, age doesn't matter so long as you are both adults.
2006-12-01 13:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Snark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a normal run of the mill guy, you know, non-religious, sure. But if you sincerely think your looking to get laid, remember your a Christian, don't they frown on fornication, adult or not? But, you do state that they are CURRENT interested students, hmm, no. But why did you pose the question that they are former students? It's still a sin according to your docturnes.
2006-12-01 14:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by to the point 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a wise ethicist, but I will say this: what adults choose to do in the privacy of their own car back-seat is their business and theirs alone.
PS Soccerdouche above me must have missed your little addition to the end.
2006-12-01 13:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think its fine if she has graduated from the college and is not coming back to take any more classes...if shes still taking classes or around the college for academic/professional reasons, id say no...and id say for you guys to only see each other OFF campus, just so people dont start pointing fingers and whispering, etc etc.....
2006-12-01 13:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by christina rose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the student is of age there is nothing against it, assuming she is no longer a student in that school.
2006-12-01 13:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, why would it be unethical? They are no longer your student and what you do outside class with someone who is no longer in your class is not really anyones concern but yours
2006-12-01 13:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Hera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no conflict if she is no longer a student.
Half my professors in college were married to former students.
2006-12-01 13:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ranto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no as long as they are not 13
2006-12-01 13:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋