When did my happy boy become an angry teenager?

Answer 1

Hey, interesting question. I think it's because when your a young boy (baby, toddler) you haven't yet experienced the harsh world. Once a boy gets old enough to experience school, he experiences all sorts of harsh realities that he hasn't been prepared for in advance, which causes psychological trauma. These harsh moments he experiences may be irritating for him in small doses, but over time, if he has no one to really help guide him through those life circumstances, it builds up and eventually he becomes all around fustrated and angry. When that happens, people finally start to notice, and his parents reach out to him, but by that time, the boy has learn not to trust that any one will really help him. He then blocks people out and keeps his pain inside because he figures, "no one helped him all those years before, so no one is really going to help me now." Those that tried probably let him down, so many coover it up with a bad boy image, etc. Not to mention, people still pressure boys to believe it's pathetic for a boy to express his problems. And most people reach out to girls more often than boys which may add to his disgruntled behavior, and belief that no one really cares.

I think this is what causes young boys to gradually become angry as they grow. I think the solution is good nurturing and communication at all times, being more involved with his life and helping him learn how to solve problems will help him to grow, and build a defense against many life problems.

Some of these problems by the way could be, other boys bullying him, calling him weak and stupid. Having little friends because he doesn't fit in. Girls picking on him or wanting nothing to do with him. If he has a crush on some girls, but they only pick on him or ignore him, he will feel more irritated and out of place. Adults who don't really help and only add to his problems make it worse. Build his trust in real communication is the solution I think.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, those suddenly angry teenagers don't come with an owners manuals... But here's a couple pretty good books that might help...

Stop Negotiating with Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting Your Angry, Manipulative, Moody, or Depressed Adolescent.
Author: Janet Sasson Edgette

Get out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? (A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager)
Author: Anthony E. Wolf

The following book is for those facing the same issue, but with their daughter. This book is absolutely amazing. It's called

I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You, by Roni Cohen-Sandler

Answer 3

What is different in his life. Are you away spending less time with him, a new boyfriend, your job, you and your husband are not together any more, did you stop talking to him and listing to what his needs are, what have you done to make him turn away from you and become angry. Yes you are the reason, because he can not talk to you. Sorry I am being hard on you but he is your son and you can not blame him .To many people blame the other for what is wrong and don't see where they are wrong them self.

Answer 4

Thats when most kids change.You really need to try and talk to him one on one.Not as a mom but as someone that will just listen. They go through so much.I know cuz mine is 18 now.He has finally turned back into himself.At this stage they can go either way.Mine is working now and going to college at night. For awhile there I didn't know what he was going to do.My secret was to listen to him and I still kept the house rules but when we talked I told him that what he told me was not.They need to know that what they say won't be used against them.Good luck

Answer 5

when the happy parent started to control the happy boy
you will be surprised what made him angry in the first place
and hopefully the
angry teen will become a happy teen

Answer 6

Hard to answer this question without more input, but start looking at the things he does and the people he is hanging with, drugs could be an issue or he is trying to fit in somewhere, or possible he is looking for attention from mom or pop.

Answer 7

Hormones

Answer 8

he became an angry teenager when influences from the school hit him. teens usually get angry cause of other teens. also it could be from bad music. i know how it feels.

Answer 9

wow! the same thing happened to me. It was like it happened overnight.From the time he was 14 til about 17,close to 18, we did not get along at all! Now that hes 18,almost 19, we get along much better.Some boys just seem to have to go thru a 'badboy' image. We went to counseling for awhile together,now I'm back,but I go alone.It still helps tho! I wish you all the luck.........

Answer 10

You know, every teen, I think, goes through that horrible, horrible stage where they are nothing but tight balls of anger, and most of it seems to be directed at the parents. Remember, though, how it felt to be too old to be a child and too young to make all of your own decisions - it was a hellish period in our lives, and we forget how truly awful it was.