Well, let me give you one example, one of the London billionaires lived with his gf of 10 years with one child...
To me by not getting married... proving the love of his gf to this billionaire...
I mean... you can be commited without marriage right? That way is a lot better because if you're together, you're together not because you have to... but because you want to...
Sometimes in the back of my mind... if I really make it... it's kind of scary of getting married... you would never know if the girls or women is after your money or your heart... (So many cases like these happen, some of my friend got jilt)
Some opinions here...
Okay... only intelligent reply... obnoxious ramblings will be reported...
2006-12-01 13:08:27 · 6 answers · asked by Jimmy the Cricket 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi! Been married 11 years and I am *NOT* still married because I have to be. Divorce is so easy these days...it costs a little more to part ways if you are married, but people do it every day and for the silliest of reasons.
I am with my husband because I want to be and because I made a commitment to him LONG before any marriage took place. Sure you can be commited without being married. Loads of people do it every day and don't have less of a relationship than I do. But honestly....I think of it as the difference between renting and buying a house. You take care and invest more in a house that you own. (I'm NOT suggesting that you OWN your spouse...it's just an example, LOL). There are also a LOAD of benefits of being married - ones that would take a lot of money and time to make happen...and all those benefits and rights are yours instantly when you say "I do".
In your example, you aren't wanting to get married because you think you just MIGHT be jilted. That's not giving your full trust and self to the other person. And I can't imagine living with someone or having a commited relationship with someone if I held back even the tiniest amount of trust. If you aren't going to marry them because you question their motives - then you shouldn't be dating them.
And as for that billionaire...How did HE prove HIS love and trust in her? If she stayed with him for 10 years and had a child and everything was hunky dory - then her motives were pure. She gave 100%, it seems. He, however, did not. He may have withheld marriage because he didn't trust her.
That's my 2 cents, anyway.
2006-12-01 13:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first, if you were going out with someone extremely rich, and they took care of you, would you leave them? Even though the gf of this billionaire stayed with him, you hafta ask was she working for her 'spending' money? Otherwise, it might be as though he was 'paying' her to stay with him and the child as a girlfriend.
Personally, I would vote for marriage (if you are concerned about the financial aspects of a divorce, setup a pre-nuptual (sp?) agreement that states what each person gets in the case of a divorce). Recent research has shown that people that are in committed relationships are often not as satisfied with the quality of the relationship (often anxious about the commitment of the other partner) and therefore are often on edge of sorts. Whereas married couples find better relationship satisfaction due to levels of trust and mutual closeness within the marriage.
2006-12-01 13:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by schep001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without the bond of marriage the total commitment is only as long as the person doesn't get bored. There is no incentive to work through problems because the door is always there. If you are worried about someone just being after your money, get a prenup and have him/her sign it. The other thing is that if something happens to one of you, the other has no legal rights to make decisions concerning your estate, burial, etc. More than one person has been turned out of there home because of this oversight.
2006-12-01 13:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can be totally committed without marriage. Marraiage has been trashed the true meaning of the wedding vows preverted and it has become something only legal, not real, so for me I would rather stay with a man committed, then marryone
2006-12-01 13:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in either. I have no patience for commitment to any one person.
2006-12-01 13:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
engaged?
2006-12-01 13:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋