i hate my new church i wanna go back to my old one but parents love the new church
2006-12-01 12:53:58 · 17 answers · asked by KatieJay 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
So switch. You can't do what your parents want you to do forever. Do your own thing! Independence is good!
2006-12-01 12:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Although not mentioning your age, it appears that you are still a minor. The best thing is to set down with your parents and openly discuss it with them. If this doesn't turnout the way you wish, when you become an adult, you can attend whatever church you desire.
For myself I am not a church going person, but I must say that the answers I've read to this question are some of the more mature I've seen for any question. Working with your parents is best and nearly all here apprently feel the same way.
2006-12-01 12:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Randy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to them and see if you can't compromise and make everyone happy. Tell them why and maybe you can be dropped off or go with friends or other family members or whatever. It's important that you enjoy fellowship with the church you go to. But, also try to get into the new church too. you may feel comfortable and we are by nature creatures of habit and like familiar places. So, try talking and compromising. Spend time with both churches and that means your family as well. They should be happy you are in church and allow the compromise. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-01 12:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.
That's a toughie.
I had the same problem.
If you cannot get your parents to switch altogether, maybe ask if you can go to some of the Wedensday or Friday night services at your old church. In the meantime, maybe look for something good in your new church. There just might be a department or group that you might absolutely love. Good luck =]
2006-12-01 12:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by TheTruthHurts 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Besides missing your friends, why do you want to go back?
You didn't say how old you are, but I guess you're probably not old enough to do what you want.
Have you spoken with your parents about this? Expalined and expressed your unhappiness.
Maybe if you talk WITH them, and explain how you feel and why, you can come to an understanding.
My church just went thru a split, and some members came with us only to go back to the old church.
The main thing you must understand is your parents are hurting too. They left many of their friends behind as well. All of you are hurting, and this is the time you need to come together as a family and pray each other thru this.
If it's possible, seek grief counseling - both as a family, and as individuals. It will help.
If you'd like to have someone to chat with, feel free to contact me. Here's my email: revnrev9@yahoo.com.
I'll keep you in my prayers...please kep in touch.
2006-12-01 13:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you felt more comfortable at the old one. I have the same problem you are having, my family moved to a new church and I liked my other one because that is where all my friends were. I talked to them to let them know that I was mature in my decision making and felt that is where He was leading me. This is when I was 16. Just talk to them and let them know how you feel, it may be tough at first but surely you will win over. Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 12:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, your parents should be thrilled that you want to be in church in the first place and let you choose. However, I am not your parents. Let them know how you feel and what you would like to do.
The Scriptures tell us we are bound to obey our parents, so while you are under their roof you may, if they still object, have to attend 'their' church. Or maybe they will be willing to compromise, and you can attend their church part of the time and ask them to allow you to attend your other church the rest of the time. Either way, pray on it and communicate from your heart. Your parents will respect you for that in the end.
2006-12-01 12:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Samslou 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents how you feel. If it's a no go, then just stick it out for a couple years. When you turn 18, go back to the old church (if you don't already like the new one.) Who knows? Maybe you'll meet someone there. :) (That is, of course, if you aren't already dating....)
2006-12-01 12:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a heart-to-heart talk with your parents about your feelings? Perhaps they will let you continue to attend the church of your choice if you tell them why and let them know that it means a lot to you. If not, just take this as a learning experience and attend the church of your choice when you get older.
Best of luck to you! :o)
2006-12-01 12:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anne C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me when I was a teen; I would suggest trying to make things work at the new church. If it is way too unbearable, try talking to your parents- sometimes this does not work- in my case it did not. If this happens, pray that God helps your parents understand. I hope things work out.
Peace
2006-12-01 13:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Iteachdailey4u 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn’t matter what church you go to, just how you actually feel on the inside. When you get older you can make those decisions for yourself, in the mean time you just have to respect the decisions your parents make for you. Maybe you could talk to them about it though.
2006-12-01 12:56:25 · answer #11 · answered by A 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋