Help with my alolthic dad and crazy aunt?

Question

My dad drank to much. He always does. My 16 year old sister left to go to school and left me behind with my 16 month old sister. I always am being stuck with her and i don't want to leave her with my dad. Wheres my mom your probably asking. She works late and even when she is home i still have problems with my dad. He drink a lot and he really is taking out his anger toward me. I do a lot to help round the house but now he has gone way over board with his drinkin problems he starts to grab me and slaps my baby sis i try to take her away from him but he yells at me and says 'shes my daughter this is my house i'll do whatever i want.' I dont want him to die from drinking problems and dont want him to be sent to jail for abousing me. I stay out of his way a lot. I lock myself in my room w/ my sis and stay there the intire night until my mom comes home. I even have an aunt living in my basement that cant get out on her own. I need help badly. Please help with any imformation you can give

Answer 1

You need to talk to your mother about this and if she doesn't take care of it then you need to talk to a counselor.. perhaps at school. The most he'd probably get is to be forced to get treatment. You'd be helping him and you'd be helping your family. Don't wait until your little sister gets hurt badly. And don't feel guilty... you are helping your dad not hurting him.
Good luck and take care of yourself.

Answer 2

Here's what you should do: You expressed your feelings so well in this post. Print out 5 copies of this. Place one on your Dad's steering wheel, one on your Mom's steering wheel, place one where your aunt will find it, give one to your teacher, and one to your school guidance counselor. That should address the problem in a way your family will be able to hear and also give you support and accountability from the safe adults in your school who can help protect and support you in the event of any reprisals from your Dad.

You can't protect your Dad from his own behavior. He will damage himself and harm others unless he gets the help that he needs. He needs to go into treatment. Don't keep secrets! Can you imagine how the baby must be adjusting to life in how little she is capable of understanding? She is learning that home and family is not safe or loving. So are you. She may need a lot of help when she gets older, especially if Dad's behavior continues. So will you. (((((HUGS)))))

Answer 3

If you call child protective services, they don't automatically take children out of the home. The first thing they do is get everyone into counselling and maybe insist he goes to AA. It's up to you to make the first move because your mom is not seeing what's happening and alcoholics don't change without a 'push' from someone. Do it for you sister who won't have anyone to stand up for her when you're gone.

Answer 4

i think you need to tell someone you trust.... ur mom's ur best bet.... n if u really care about ur dad u would want to get him some help so that he can be the father u want him to be..... if ur unconfortable talking to ur mum talk to a teacher or even a friend's parent.... if ur really not sure about that call the kids help phone.... u are annoymous.... n it doesnt show up on ur phone bill....here is some info if u wanna call

The fastest way to get help is to call 1-800-668-6868.

Kids Help Phone's telephone counselling is:

anonymous (we don't have call display)
confidential
available from anywhere in Canada
toll-free
immediate (open 24/7)
staffed by professional counsellors

also u might want to visit their website

http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/en/counselling/phone.asp?sec=1&sb=2

hope u find peace of mind and things work out for you....gud job on looking out for ur little sister.... shows that u care ....
gud luck in the future...n stay positive.... ur little sister needs u too protect her...

Answer 5

Sit down with your mom and tell her what's going on. She needs to know this kind of stuff. It is not safe for you and your sisters to be there. I know it is tough and a hard thing to do but you DO need to turn him in to someone before you or your sisters get severly hurt or your father hurts himself from his drinking. He probably doesn't realize that he is not only hurting himself but his whole family by him drinking. Most alcoholics don't realize this. Your father needs help with his drinking problem but the sad thing is, is you can't force him to do it. Doing that will only make it worse. Please talk to your mom, turn him into athorities for him abusing you and your sister and hopefully they will admit him themselves to rehab for his drinking. I can tell you are scared for your safety as well as your sisters. Please do this, if not for you then do it for your sisters and your dad. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

ok im very sorry this is happening first of all you should talk to your mom about it when your dad isnt drinking you should tell him not to drink that its going to kill him!!!iff that doesnt work i know it hurts but you should call 411 and ask for the police departments # (its not 911 its a number so that you can just talk to someone and they will figure it out) your dad can go to jail but but they will probably take him to a special hospital that will help him out read my source

Answer 7

Talk to your mother, and if she doesn't help, or seem concerned, you can call the family services. Your Father should NOT be hitting the baby, and you shouldn't be in charge of her. This is not a good situation at all. You have to get help in there before someone gets hurt. Good luck, and I'm sending you a hug. ~~~

Answer 8

ur lucky i know it doesnt sound like it but you are my mom and dad split when i was 3 then my dad started drinking so much he got so drunk he couldnt stand up then my mom married another guy that drank and does drugs plus he cheats too they lived together for 5 years got married and had a baby, then when she was a year old he split, but when he was still here when my friends would come over he would stare at them REALLY STARE!!and once he got mad at me he ripped my door down like BROKE it and wouldnt buy me a new one, then it started on my lil sis he would drop her from like 2 feet in the air then say whoops he verbally abused me and has tried to hit me but i stopped him so he hasnt tried that but do what i did talk to your mom ask her who she cares for most, and if u need to talk to someone who knows what it is like just e-mail me [e-mail]

Answer 9

You need o get you and your sister out of their quicky as possible. e-mail the police, call someone to help you. the best way to get help is when you go to school. go to the police or even or even talk to a firend and send them for help. If you love your dad then you'll get the police. they can help him. Right now you have to get your baby sister out of the house including you to safty. You have to get out of their. if your dad slaps the baby you never know when he'll get fisical with the baby. he could easly kill both of you. get out any way possible. during the night climb out the window with your sister and run. don't look back at all. go to a nabors house who could help you. just get out!

Answer 10

Hello,

From what I'm hearing in your question, Living with an alcoholic who is abusive towards you is a dangerous situation, because the alcoholic's abusive behavior may worsen and he may begin to abuse others, including your little sister. So not only is your father's behavior dangerous, criminal and illegal, but it also could be life-threatening to yourself or your siblings. And then you have a nearly helpless Aunt home-bound in your basement who may be in need of social services or intervention/assistance from an outside agency.

Your want to protect your father by not reporting his behavior and these incidents to authorities so he will not be punished by the law and by society. You want your father's life to be protected so he won't die from his addiction to alcohol.

Yet in your wanting to protect your father so much, you are continuing to leave yourself, your siblings and your aunt vulnerable to being abused, hurt and possibly killed by your alcoholic father. Please understand that when a person is chronically under the influence of alcohol, their thinking is distorted and their behavior can be unpredictable. Emotions can be altered and the alcoholic may even unintentionally hurt others say by leaving a lit cigarette when he passes out on a couch, burning the house down.

Your seeking refuge by locking yourself behind closed doors is making you a prisoner in your own home, and forcing you to live in fear.

Apparently you have not discussed these incidents with your mother, or she IS aware of them but she is unable to or helpless to take action, perhaps for a variety of reasons. I would first try to discuss what is going on with your mother, if possible.

For you to remain silent for the purpose of protecting your father is keeping yourself and family in jeopardy, perhaps even your lives in jeopardy.

Your father's life might be saved if her were sent to prison or jail as he would be forced to do without alcohol, and he might be able to attend AA meetings there and obtain counseling for his addiction. Going to jail might save his very life and health, and his becoming sober would be a wake-up call to him which hopefully would make him realize how much he has to lose, and could straighten him out.

You deserve to live without fear and without abuse. Your local Women's Shelter in the phone book should have a phone number and there are toll-free numbers for domestic violence you can call where you could obtain counseling and free assistance.

Do not wait, you need to take action immediately. For tomorrow could be too late. And if you ever fee you are in physical danger or others are, call 911.