My friend is overweight by a lot, how do I tell her these without hurting her feelings?

Question

She is 5"3, and 162 pounds.

She doesn't know that she is fat, today she ate cereal with milk,, pizza, and french fries, chips, ice cream, and for dinner she ate fast food, she went out to mcdonalds, I do not think she knows she is overweight.

I am not trying to be mean or anything, it's just that she has to know, I want to help her.

Answer 1

As someone who struggled with many diets and failed repeated at losing weight, I was eventually able to do it during my last attempt and lost 67 pounds in just four months. The difference?

I WAS REALLY TRULY READY AND WANTED IT MYSELF.

It's really sweet that you care so much about the health (and esteem) of your friend, but telling her would serve no purpose. It would only hurt her feelings. Telling her would in no way prompt her to start working out and eating healthy foods. She has to make the decision for herself.

Trust me, and best of luck to you.

Answer 2

Well first of all she is not exactly grossly overweight though a bit on the heavy side. Second of all don't you think she already feels bad about her weight. Some people tend to be on the heavier side because they have a slow metabolism.

I don't think anything you say to her regarding this matter will go down very well. It is best to just not say anything.

You should care for a friend regardless of weight. Friends come in all different shapes and sizes. That is just the way it is for most people.

Answer 3

Trust me, your friend already knows and doesn't need to hear it from you. If you're concerned about her health, why not encourage her to start joining you for some walks around the neighborhood after work or school so you chat? Or tell her YOU'D like to lose five pounds and you could use a weight loss buddy for support. But the last thing you should do is take it upon yourself to "educate" her about her own body. If she doesn't already have low self-esteem because of her weight, you'll soon give it to her, which doesn't do her any good whatsoever. My advice would be for you to just stay out of it. When she's ready to lose weight herself, she'll do it. And maybe she's perfectly happy with herself just the way she is!

Answer 4

Yes, i think u should tell ur friend..and u shouldnt lie to her like one person said..i mean if u were overweight wouldnt u want someone to tell u the truth about urself??..and she probably is very aware of the fact that she is majorly overweight! she probably just eats to fill up that hole or to make her feel more comfortable..you can try and talk to her about..say something like lets go eat healthier or make some diet plans together..it can help..i mean if u really were a good friend to her u would tell her the truth..if she is understanding she will noe that u are not just telling her that she is fat to make fun of her but for her own good!

Answer 5

Well, she might be your friend, but you aren't acting much like a true friend. She knows how she looks. It isn't up to you to judge whether she is overweight or not. I would vote against buying a membership to a gym for her or both of you. If YOU sincerely wanted to join a gym, you could mention if to her and get her reaction, but to buy a membership for her without her approval is very presumptuous. And to "keep her from eating ice cream and other fattening foods" is not your business either, unless she requests your help.

Be a true friend and accept her the way she is. If you can't, find other friends.

Answer 6

That is overweight. A TRUE friend is honest. Of course do your best in telling her without coming across with a "holier than thou" vibe. You can do some research on the effect of too much weight on health and inform her about it. Let her know you're on her side and not trying to be mean. Support her by helping her. Go to the gym with her. Hold her accountable for her diet. A true friend would not keep quiet when their friend's health and future is on the line.

Answer 7

Why do you feel the need to tell her? I am sure she already realizes she is 5'3" and overweight. Instead, I would suggest some physical activities for you two to share together. Such as "Hey, friend! Let's go for a bike ride!", etc. And when you go to the mall, or out to eat, try going someplace with healthy dining. She may actually enjoy it and start living a healthier lifestyle by your example.

Answer 8

The best thing you can do for your friend is support her. Are you in shape? Actually even if you are you can ask her to join a gym or walk with her. Even people who are thinner than others still need to keep in shape to stay healthy. A New Years resolution could be living a haelthier life. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Your friend knows she is overweight. If you are her true friend, don't breathe a word about it unless she brings it up. Rather, suggest doing things with her that are physically active and will help her get in shape and be fun for both of you. That would be the best gift as a friend you could give to her.

Answer 10

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