I will say first off that I have never had sexual thoughts about a child, I may have very sickening sex thoughts when I get depressed but nothing about children.
ok now my problem! do I need to tell me doc that I cant seem to stop looking at little children and smile whale thinking "that’s such a cute little boy/girl" I do that a lot and I just keep looking at them and any thoughts that go through my head involve me having a little one usually a daughter and enjoy playing with my wife and our little girl.
I don’t like having these thoughts, I don’t want them because I have genetic defects and thus plan on getting a vacetime so I cant reproduce. but these damn thought keep coming and it makes it worse because several people say they think I would be a good father...how do I stop these damn thoughts! I would not mind adopting some day but I don’t want any biological children.
2006-12-01 12:38:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
all rightey, i will write it down on the list of things to talk about.
hay when i first started my therpy sessions i hada long list but nots its donw to just a couple of things a week and in a month we are starting every other week sessions.
2006-12-01 12:53:00 · update #1
sorry you can not have any children of your own. they are really fun, but it is nice that you want to adopt... hey, whatever works for you. anyway, why would you feel uncomfortable with telling you doc something like that? there is nothing wrong with wanting a family. they will love you and cherish you, i know my family is like that. just don't be scared, just let it out. good luck.
2006-12-01 12:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having these thoughts. I would tell your psychiatrist though. When I was extremely depressed, I fantasied a lot about how I wanted things to be. It really kept me from dealing with things here and now though. Tell your doctor about your desires. It may be a sign you are feeling a bit better. As you said adoption is always an option. You more than likely have many good qualities to pass on to a child. You can do this by the way you raise and treat a child. You do not have to genetically have a child to pass on good qualities to them.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 21:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you wrote i don't think you have anything to worry about as far as being a child molester or rapist.
i say talk to the doctor about this Tell him just what you said here and i think you will get an answer from the doctor that is similar to mine . i belief the answer is that its natural to want to have children of your own to be a dad . no different from a woman wanting to be a mom .
since you have made a choice not to have children because of some genetic problem , i think that its important that you are sure that this problem is genetic so if there is not absolute clear scientific evidence that your MD can show you regarding this i think you might be best to see a genetic specialist to learn more about this .
2006-12-01 20:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothin wrong with this. You just want kids. I cant have any either. I look at my sister in laws girls and think to my self how much i wish they were my kids and how cute they are and how it would be nice to have kids come running up to me and be happy to see me. Its a nateral thing when you cant have them on your own. " People want what they cant have"
2006-12-01 20:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this question.
2006-12-01 20:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by couchtalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as above
2006-12-01 20:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋