I have recently decided to become a stay-at-home mom. Is there anyone out there with advice?

Answer 1

I am a stay at home mom as well. I have 3 children under the age of 5 and they are my lfe. I think that society places a major emphasis on mom's who work and that it is just so much more important to have a job than raise your children. Not so in my opinion. I think that you have all the time in the world once your children are in school to have time for you and your career. The only sure way to make sure your children are raised the way you see fit is to raise them yourself and not have a babysitter or daycare telling them opposite things as you do. I know it is tedious to do housework and to stay home but the reward in the end is so much more. My girls help me with the housework like taking laundry to the washer and helping me put the dishes away. They know when my work is done or in process then they get their mommy time and we play games or make believe or whatever they want me to do with them. Check your local library for story time and also if you live in a warm state check into the parks. Also look into the mom groups that do things with each other and their children. It is a great way to keep adult interaction.

Answer 2

First of all, good for you. The best piece of advice that I can give you is to remember some time for yourself otherwise you will lose your sanity and take it out on those around you, the ones that you love. Just a half an hour a night where you do something for yourself and nobody can interrupt you away from the household things. And don't let anybody tell you to "get a real job", or make you feel like a glorified maid, I have only been a SAHM for a little over a year and it is one of the most rewarding things that I have done thus far in my life and I regret what I missed out on with my oldest two, so now I am going to enjoy the time that I get with all three of my children, best of luck to you and congrats.

Answer 3

I was a stay at home mom with my last child....i wish i had been with the first 3 but finances simply wouldn't permit it.
Honey...get yourself a hobby..something you really love doing.
Sometimes u can make a little extra money depending on what you like. Make time everyday, even if it's only half an hour to work on it. I used nap times. Take care of u first and the kids next. If you aren't 100% u can't give them 100% Do family projects..even the smallest can help dig a hole to plant something in...and for heaven sake ..let em get dirty!! Nothing gives a kid more fun than a good old fashioned mud hole LOL
If they are old enough..scavenger hunts will keep em busy for hours...make the winner a small reward..like getting to pick what's for dinner. Just keep it real and keep it simple and fun...The bonding u do now will last a lifetime...Good Luck and enjoy your kids...They grow up wayyyyyyyyyyy to fast. Hugs to ya hun

Answer 4

Keep up your job skills so that if there is a way that you have to get hired, you can get hired. Volunteer every now and then, it looks good on your reccord. My mom made the mistake of not doing that and she had to get $6-7 an hour for some odd amount of weeks. Like, a year.

Anyway, my other advice, is hang tight with your kids!! My parents have a hard time relating to my sibblings, and I've had to step up to the plate and play a third parent. Before we adopted my brother, (16) things were crazy. They still are, but I have someone else to help!

Congradulations on your desision, your family will benifit for it!

Edit - one more thing, make sure to take brakes for yourself. My mom takes long walks every morning. A vaccation once a year can't hurt, etiher.

Answer 5

Play with your children, rather than sitting them in front of the television all day. save some time at the end of the day where you can de-stress. A special time that everyone knows it's "mommy's time". Maybe your husband could give them their baths at the end of the day to give you some time alone. Don't feel the need to do all the housework by yourself, a child (well, toddler and up) is never to young to learn how to help Mommy out around the house by doing chores like taking his plate to the sink when he's done with dinner, taking dirty clothes to the laundry room, or helping fold clothes, etc...

Answer 6

Good for you! It is so good for your kids to have a mom around. It can be hard sometimes, especially financially...but definitely worth it. Get involved with other stay at home moms in your are if you can....it's a great way to keep sane (having grown-ups to talk to), and also is good for the kids to spend time together if the are not in school yet.

Answer 7

I think your decision is a wonderful one! Enjoy it! I was a stay at home mom with both of my children until they were 3 and oh god do i miss it. Working takes up up alot of my energy, and i feel sometimes i am not able to keep up with both. If I could I would love to stay home again. Although at times it got lonely and monotonous remember so does having a job. GOOD LUCK!! AND REMEMBER ENJOY EVERY SECOND!

Answer 8

Not a bad idea every kid needs their mom. At the same time dont keep yourself cooped up in the house all the time b/c of it. It will make you carzy you have to have time for you!!!!!! That is VERY VERY important. So stay at home moms start to feel depressed dont let this happen to you and if it does start get out and get a part time job.

Answer 9

i've been a stay at home mom for 8 years and it's been wonderful. advice....keep in touch with friends and make sure you go out and have time for yourself. you can go stir crazy being in the house with kids all day and you need breaks. i got really down at one point because i just stayed home and my life revolved around kids, husband, home....that was it. appreciate yourself! stay away from the computer as much as possible. its so easy to sit all day and waste time! stay focused on the kids.

Answer 10

i am a stay at home mom for 3yrs.. and should i say it is not a good idea.
you need to think of other things to do, not just staying home and take care of the kids.. of course it is good for the kids.. but time will come that you will get bored and feel empty and useless (for other reasons) there are times that you'll feel fed up and ask yourself why i am like this.
mood swings will become a problem.. being with your kids is lot of fun but being with them always will fed you up.
you see, everybody need space and a breather.. better think of any other hobbies and other sort of incomes now to control the mood problem in the future.
we need to balance our life and mind..
goodluck!