??? I mean, your freedom to be with someone else stopped the day you started dating someone, not the day you get married. How shallow can people be. I am not having a bachelorette party and my boyfriend isn't going to have a bachelor party. We are just disgusted at the idea of this.
2006-12-01 12:30:50 · 13 answers · asked by xstraight_edge_emo_kidx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
by the way my boyfriend is not going to have a bachelor party. there are inheritly good people in the world. we don't believe in cheating.
2006-12-01 12:36:25 · update #1
I agree with you 101%. I also have reservation when it comes to that. Instead of getting excited that one day I will get married, I get so worried that if my BF ask me to marry him that he will have a bachelor party. We had some issues about that before because we have friends ??? that love to go to that (Bad influence) Anyway, I'm so glad that I'm not the only one in the world that still believe in fidelity, honesty and respect.
God Bless you
2006-12-01 13:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kittytweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My lover is going to have a bachelor party, no strippers though! He's just going to hang out with his friends and his male family members as an excuse to go out and get drunk. It doesn't bother me one bit. While some people think of it as a 'last chance of freedom' my lover and I think of it as a way to celebrate our getting married with loved ones and hell, it's an excuse to party. I won't be having a bachelorette party with strippers and all that shite, I probably won't be having too much because I'm not that social. I'll be forced into a wedding shower though, which is the same sort of deal without the fun or the booze.
I think it stems from the idea that so many people think that married people shouldn't be allowed to go out to bars or parties and have drunken nights with their friends anymore. So, it's the freedom disappearing. Apparently, married people are supposed to settle down and breed. Mind you, niether me nor my lover are going to stop having friends, fun or start breeding, but it's tradition to have this little party anyways. It's like pre-drinking before a night out dancing.
2006-12-01 21:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not the idea of sleeping with anyone, its the idea of getting to go out one more time single. Its like kissing your single butt good by for the rest of your life. Not too much as a single lay.
Its good your both in a agreement, but remember, your only single till your not. Having that drink, and the memories of single life. Bring in the reality of the further, and saying that was good, but now its better, I will never drink alone, and do anything alone again, not even a far.....t or dum.....p. by myself. Everything I do from now on is a open book. Tell me that doesnt deserve a drink.
2006-12-01 22:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of my friends cheated at their bachelor parties, but I know of 2 women who did. So, I definitely don't like them if I was to get married.
2006-12-01 21:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. It is a very stupid thing to do. It is being somehow dishonest to your partner, a waste a money and the sovereign show of how insecure people are about what or how they have to behave just to SHOW OFFof what are they capable of. People who does it I think do not have a strong esteem of themselves and their couple. It is disgusting, ignorant and unfaithful. I 've been maried for many years now, very happy and neither of us had a stupid bachelor's party. Good Luck, and feel proud of yourself for not having the need of doing that stupid party.
2006-12-01 20:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Motta 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i agree with you! my husband and i didn't have bachelor/bachelorette parties. insead we spend the night before our wedding together. the idea of being with friends or with "someone else for one last time" didn't even cross our minds. i think if you really love somebody, you wouldn't cheat. so i guess i don't know the answer...except that this world makes everything wrong, okay. even tho its disgusting.
2006-12-01 20:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by sexymama06 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
mainly just as a last "horrah" i think it's wonderful to have bachelor/bachelorette parties...simply because once you are married, God comes first, then comes husband, then comes family, then friends, then work...that's the way it's supposed to be anyway! It's one last time to just party it up with your friends! Who cares if there's strippers? My husband went to his friends house with all his buddies, brothers, my brother, and our dads. They played video games and tackle football...and smoked cigars. Even had a few beers. I went to my friends house, had a pot luck dinner, and we went and had a few drinks downtown! Nothing dirty or wrong...It's just such a fun way to spend some time with your friends to celebrate your friendships and your soon to be marriage!
2006-12-01 22:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I 100% with you and sadly, I get the same re-action "last day of freedom" b.s I tell them their freedom stop when they became a couple.
My fiance and I are also not going to have one and think it is disrespectful way to start off a marriage.
2006-12-02 03:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's the idea that the *potential* to date others is taken away. Plus, once you're married, many believe that women put much more of a tighter leash on their partners...
2006-12-01 20:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because they want to be trapped in their marriages
2006-12-01 22:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jarrett D 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋