I'm not talking about generically loving somebody--ie, your friends or your parents, etc--because of course, that's platonic.
I'm talking about romantic love. If you want to wake up everyday to that person, but never have anything physical?
Can that be romantic love? Or does romantic have to be sexual?
2006-12-01 12:28:01 · 29 answers · asked by Nipivy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO way there have to be sex or there is somthing wrong with one off u two
2006-12-01 12:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by redscorpionhot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a rare person. Most people think that sex equals love, that your degree of sexual activity determines how good a "lover" you are. But real, quality love that has a chance of lasting should start as a strong mutual friendship, a desire to spend more and more time with the person, to help them with their problems, to make decisions with them, and to follow them wherever they're going in life. A lasting relationship is a partnership; it has to be more about giving than recieving. Sexual desire will come in time, and if you wait, it will be the most satisfying. The act should be more about pleasuring the other person than just yourself. That's when it truly is an act of love. Best wishes for your relationship! No need to rush things, and don't let others rush you, either.
2006-12-01 12:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex can only ever strengthen a marriage. If you are married, or planning on doing so (which is the best thing to do before having a sexual relationship), yes, a sexual relationship with your husband is very important. I have actually heard of realtionships dying due to lack of a sexual relationship. It's a way of showing that you love each other. If your not married, or not planning on it, as I said...you have time, don't worry.
2006-12-01 12:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by dancingham 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to want to have sex with the person you are in love with. Sex is not love. To make a relationship last you shouldn't start it with sex. Become best friends, learn everything about the other person. When you put sex in the relationship that becomes your main focuss. I'm not saying don't have sex before marriage but you should hold out til you really know him and your ready to give yourself to him because thats a huge step.
2006-12-01 12:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Whit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how important sex is to you. If you still desire that "feeling" of being with someone even if it is as simple as kissing, your relationship won't last forever. You'll probably be tempted to cheat eventually. If sex is not on high on your list, than maybe you'll be o.k. After all isn't the big difference between friends and lovers, sex? Think of it this way, would you be upset to know your girlfriend/boyfriend never wanted to have sex with you? You don't need to stress over it because in time you'll know for sure.
2006-12-01 12:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by imperfectly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my case, yes. I am basically Gay, and I love men and sex with them. However, I have a girlfriend. We've been together 27 years, and I'm as much in love with her now as when we first got together. We had sex for about 20 years (we're old Hippies, so we have always had an "open" relationship, and she knows I'm Gay) but I'm not so sexually attracted to her anymore. I love her with all my heart, but the sex part has cooled.
But then, maybe that's normal for couples who've been together for so long.
2006-12-01 12:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tuff one. I think that if you are in a relationship and you don't want sex, it can only mean one of two things.
1) You have intimacy issues, like maybe you are afraid of sex because you were abused or were raised in a very strict home.
2) You are not as attracted to your partner as you think (this really only applys to women). It is a well known fact that women date and even have boyfriends who they are not attracted to because the guy is willing to give them anything they want and not make a move (i.e. nice guys). This kills a woman's attraction for a man.
If you think it is option 1. You may want to get professional help. If it is option 2, you must ask yourself if you are really happy; and if you are, just stick with him.
2006-12-01 12:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by AJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course that can be romantic love! Love is not based completely on sex. People fall in love with who they are and how they make you feel, not for what they can do. And if you love someone for what they can do, then its just not love.
2006-12-01 12:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by LOSTinLOVEchick (: 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. Sexual intercourse is just a way of showing romanticism & love,but it doesn't neccesarely mean you have to have sex with someone you truly love. There are other things to do to be romantic,such as cuddling,or spending time with each other. Good Luck-
2006-12-01 12:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jeremy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is quite possible. There are some people who never want sex at all, with anybody, and they can still experience romantic love. I wouldn't be too worried about it, if that's how you are then that's how you are.
2006-12-01 12:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Romantic has to be sexual. That's the meaning of romance. Anything else is just friendship.
2006-12-01 12:31:10 · answer #11 · answered by kwightman69 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋