okay the bad relationship was not with me. she had been with this guy for i dont know how long. i knew her when she decided to break up with him. but i didnt know this and before she told me i confessed my feelings. she said she had trusted him and everything blew up in her face. so now she doesn't really trust anyone and to just be in her close friends circle is like taking a trial by fire. im lucky enough to be in that circle, so she says. but she added that unlike everyone else she says i just floated through that, like i just went through her deffensive wall. but even this wont let me get closer to her but i think im slowly getting there. i just want her to trust me enough so we can be more than close friends. what can i do?
2006-12-01 12:16:44 · 8 answers · asked by Guilver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will pay for another's mistakes. It's part of getting with someone that has baggage. You will need to remind her sometimes that you are not that other person. You will need to be completely honest and open with her until she starts to trust you. I know, because my husband had to do all of this too.
2006-12-01 12:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to work on her own issues in order for her to be emotionally healthy, before getting in to a new relationship. Once, she becomes healthy; she needs to know what she wants in a future boyfriend. In life everything is a process and she needs to go through that process. Same is from acquaintance to friend and from friendship to boyfriend. This process will allow for time to get to know her future boyfriend better and no to have trust issues. The same goes for you so you can be a desirable boyfriend one day. I am sure you are a fine gentleman, but we all have issues to work on.Good luck
2006-12-01 20:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she just came out of that bad relationship sure she thinks that she can't trust anyone agian. I felt that way when my ex-boyfriend broke up with me ( yes am a female). It took a while for me but I got over it and trusted guys again, now Iam in love with my new boyfriend and I trust him. Now with you just tell her agian how you feel about her and give her time to ajust and she will open up but whatever you do, do not give up on her and your feeling about her
2006-12-01 20:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Laura N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and go slow with her. She lost her trust in men. However you have a unique situation. You can restore her trust in our gender. All the best to you!
2006-12-01 20:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's already suspicious, so make sure you are totally upfront with her about your expectations, and don't lie to her about anything, including the little things.
2006-12-01 20:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing...move on
2006-12-01 20:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be your self unless you are an *** hole
best answer
2006-12-01 20:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient.... she will come around...
2006-12-01 20:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋