This problem started back in January. I met this girl named Katie and I started liking her right away. We got to know each other and we found a whole lot in common, like we both loved to sing, and we are both very strong Christians. We started singing together at school. Soon, I grew infatuated with her, then she started going out with my friends. So I started going out with this other girl named Erica, and it was alright except for I started losing interest, then I told her about Katie just to be honest, and a couple of other things happened and it just hurt her, so I broke up with her. I thought I was over Katie, but I get somewhat jealous whenever everyone else hangs out with her and I can't because I've got a whole of crappy homework, and I still have this bellowing feeling in the pit of my stomach. Every night I pray for a Christian girlfriend so I can that special connection with someone and so I can get over Katie, but my prayers haven't been answered. What should I do?
2006-12-01 12:09:33 · 15 answers · asked by Paul W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well god has a plan for everyone. God lets every thing happen for a reason don't worry about Katie you sound like a good guy, you need to let yourself find someone who cares for you. As for Katie she doesn't see how much you care for her. Let her go and live your life and sooner or later god is going to answer you prayer just give him time he knows what is right for you. So don't try to make everything happen over night it cant all you have to do is just let things go there way. Try dating other girls and maybe you'll find true love.
Good Luck and I hope this helped.. *_*
2006-12-01 12:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you but.....Remember Katie started going out with your friends NOT you! You might have the syndrome in which you want what you can't have. You didn't need to tell your new date. You intentionally sabotaged that relationship. The feeling in the pit of your stomach is probably lust so calm it down. Best if you see if you can restore the other relationship. What's wrong with her? Wasn't she a Christian? Pray and wait on the Lord for who God would have for you. He will eventually provide you a mate just trust him. Katie isn't the answer.
2006-12-01 20:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax God has a plan for you. I liked the same guy for years and I thought I never had a chance I would dream about him and everything and thought I was losing it. Now I'm 23 and weve been a happy couple for over a year now. God is just giving you the strength to make something good happen to you. He has a plan even if it isnt with Katie, or if it is. Have faith
2006-12-01 20:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh FOOOOOL...A big one...there is an old saying that say "Don't ever let go of the one u love for the one u like.."...u're totaly wrong man...but u still have the chance to get her back...it's never late u know..maybe it is only 1 katie that came or will come in ur whole life..maybe u still love her...but for sure u have feelings...Go talk to her...tell her that u were a big fool for letting her go...tell her that u'll never do that again because she a once in a life time girl...do ur best to get her back...and put this in mind YOU ARE CAPABLE..go for it again...im sure u can
Good luck dude :)
2006-12-01 20:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by A... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. There are only two things you can do - you can tell her, or you can keep quiet. If there is ever going to be anything between you two it has to be built on a foundation of honesty, and it's time for you to tell her the truth - that you are in love with her (I know you are - like I said "been there, done that"). And it's time for her to be honest with you - she needs to let you know how she feels. In my case it didn't work out, but we became very close friends. We still sing together, today, in church and other places. She even became one of my wife's best friends.
Go for it, and good luck.
2006-12-01 20:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, like maybe in high school? Focusing on your studies is appropriate at this time, particularly for Christian young people. Neither of you should be thinking about serious partnerships until you're getting ready to settle down, i.e. have means of supporting yourselves. That means her too--even a woman who plans to stay at home needs job skills. What if her husband became disabled and she needed to work?
So stay friendly to her. Maybe when the time is right you two will get together. If in the process of getting to know her you realize that her values have changed, or she falls in love with and marries someone else, then you simply must mend your heart and find the one you're meant to be with. We must never force our partnerships... God really has someone special for you, if you will only wait for them.
2006-12-01 20:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think youre being fair ,
only looking for christian girls?
yeah u prolly want a special connection, but
dating isnt about religion!!
you need to start dating other people.
im sure there are better people than katie.
but if you really cant,
then you can find other christian girls thats NOT katie.
come on, theres millions of people out there.
why would you want to waste your time on someone who doesnt show interest in you?
2006-12-01 20:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by hyo.jy93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dude, you let he slip away and now she is gone. Quit crying over spilled milk. It seems apparent that the relationship meant much more to you than it did to her. I think what's really bothering you is you realize to late that you lost this one. Lots of time Christianity is an excuse not yo really put your heart into it. She found out you were half stepping and moved on. Time for you to do the same..
Best Wishes...
2006-12-01 20:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by j.swaney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't waste your time waiting for something you might never get. you're missing out on life and it might not be clear to you right now, but maybe what you're looking for is right in front of you and you're just blinded by katie because all you really want is katie. she really doesn't seem to be losing ne sleep over you so i would just forget about her if i were you.
2006-12-01 20:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Shwing! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep praying and have faith enough to believe that God hears and will answer your prayers. Keep doing that crappy home work and good luck to you and God bless you.
2006-12-01 20:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋