Does a woman perceive a man as nice when she likes him?
And does a woman perceive a man as creepy when she is not attracted to him?
For instance, if a man takes the time out to find out a woman's mailing address to send her something nice as a surprise. Will she perceive him as a "nice person" or a "creep" based upon her attraction towards him?
2006-12-01 12:03:39 · 12 answers · asked by Mr. Main Event 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A man should not express his initial interest by mailing something, at least where I live (NY, USA). That might be seen as creepy. Particularly finding out her mailing address, which could compromise her safety. She might perceive it as a boundary violation.
Once they've dated, and he's had a chance to find out where she lives in a natural way, then maybe a surprise to her home would be nice... but start with something mellow like flowers, candy, a book or something.
Ask her out! See how it goes from there. Pay for whatever you ask her to go to. You'll soon know if she's attracted to you.
2006-12-01 12:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some very superficial women, the only difference between nice and creepy is whether or not she thinks the guy's hot. If he's ugly, she probably thinks he's creepy. If he's hot, he's probably a sweetheart gentleman.
Sometimes the distinction is between whether or not she's already told him yes or no. If she's told him that she's not interested and clearly doesn't want to be bothered anymore, she'll probably think it's creepy if he keeps pursuing her. If she returns the interest, then it might be sweet (although it could escalate into clingy). It's hard to say, and it usually depends on the situation.
Finding out a woman's mailing address is going a little too far and is probably creepy. Maybe leave it in a place she'll find it that's not too personal, like her work, or give it to a friend to pass on? I know I'd be a little weirded out by someone who got my address.
2006-12-01 20:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm--a fine line between creepy & not. How hard did you have to dig to find her address--the phone book? then I would say that's not to creepy,. Follow her home--that's creepy. Good luck Mr Main Event, you sound like a thoughtful & considerate guy.
2006-12-01 20:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Clycs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally depends on how she views you.
You have to gauge that. If she laughs and smiles and looks at you a lot and you guys talk occationally then she might, just might not see that as creepy.
If she likes you, she will think that you were very sweet to think of her and to do something out of your way like that.
2006-12-01 20:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jayden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty two sided. I think the nice gift would compell her attention for the most part.
2006-12-01 20:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you send me something your creepy however if I known you for months or yrs then we are cool send that Diamond Necklace to...........
2006-12-01 20:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if she finds him attractive. Nice idea if she does!
2006-12-01 20:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that would be creepy. Why not address her in person?
2006-12-01 20:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Danthony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I only get creeped out if they hit on me and i'm not interested, and if they know i'm not interested.
2006-12-01 20:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me i would say not creepy but other women i don't know
2006-12-01 20:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋