The word "daddy"?

Question

My daughter recently started calling my husband daddy for the first time about a month ago...we've lived together for almost a year...and most the time i call him "michael" so sometimes she says michael and then she says daddy.....we havent pushed the issue with her and both wanted her to call him what she feels comfy with but shes really choosing daddy even tho hes not her biological father...Do i start calling him daddy infront of her too? or not?

No i mean infront of her he refers to me as mommy..hes like theres your mommy or be nice to mommy you know that kinda stuff...in return am i supposed to do that for her too?

When i was growing up my parents didnt refer to themselves as mom and dad so in return i have never claled them that ive always called them kari and kevin i dont want her doing that i kinda think its ...not very nice

Oh sorry shes going to be 4 in january no her bio dad isnt involved and him and his family chooses not to be involved...yeah my husband wants her to call him that he doesnt say that but he gets a big BIG grin when she does....

Answer 1

I usually call my husband honey..... and sometimes our son will call him that... it is funny....., but here is an idea..... when she does something say "daddy come look what "daughters name" did".... whether it is pick up her room, or paint a picture... and when you are doing something with her like giving her a bath say.."Daddy could you bring us a towel"... and when you are putting her to bed tell her " ok sweetie, lets go give daddy hugs and kisses and tell him night night" ...... basically just look for opportunities.... they are everywhere.... even when they are wrestling or making faces say "daddy you're funny" and when she ask for something tell her "I don't know lets go ask daddy" include him in everything and all decision making for her and she will feel more like he is her daddy.... also calling him honey or baby.... or some other lovey name.... couldn't hurt... the most she would do is repeat that..... Good Luck..... And remember anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a daddy.... and a real good man to want to be a daddy to a child that is not his own....... I think that is just Awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

if her biological father has nothing to mdo with her and the man you are with now plays an active role as daddy, then yes, he should be daddy. when she's older let her know she does have a father and maybe even arrange some kind of meeting if you are all comfortable with it later.

My dad met my step-mom when my step-sister was only 5 or 6. My dad raised her, she's knows he's not her bio-dad (whom she met once when she was 14), but she has always called him daddy. I call her my sister and am closer to her than most of my family (i was 12 when my dad and step-mom got together).

it takes a special kind of man to step in and be not just a father but a daddy. and if michael and your daughter both feel comfortable with him being daddy, then so be it!

now i do another case too. my brother is with a girl with 2 kids and the oldest calls him daddy craig and the youngest calls him just plain daddy. the oldest remembers her father and still calls him daddy and refers to my brother who has been acting father to her daddy craig. the youngest was only a few months old when his mom got with my brother. but their father does have a role in their lives even if he does only try like once a month or every other month.

Answer 3

If the real father is not involved then i don't see why she can't call him daddy. I feel every child needs to know who they're real father is,but at 4 she is still to young to understand who her 'real' dad is. To her, your husband is her daddy! If he doesn't mind, i would refer to him as daddy to her and in conversation. I mean, he actually is the father,he's the one that's there now and the one she would always remember.
I go with Daddy!!!

But remember once she gets older,you'll have to explain that he is not actually her real dad. But thing is, she will always think and know your husband is her dad, its the only dad she's ever known.

Answer 4

Yes, I'd say it you should refer to him as Daddy. Especially since you two are married and your daughter is comfortable with the name.

I do that with my daughter, but when I'm just talking to hubby I call him by his name. She, of course, knows our first names and has used them a few times, but the majority of the time she calls us Mommy and Daddy.

Answer 5

My five year old calls her step-mother "mommy"... always has. If I ask her if she had good time with "daddy and mommy" she is always okay with it. She lives with me. I guess the more to love her the better. As long as he is going to get visitation rights to her if you ever split up then its not a problem. IF he isn't going to get those rights I wouldn't encourage it. So once her "daddy" always her "daddy" kinda deal.

Answer 6

If she says he is Daddy, then he is Daddy. That is not a biological title, but one from the heart. He should be honored, although she probably does not know the difference -- or care. A Daddy is someone who loves you and takes care of you. Your husband is clearly her Daddy.

Answer 7

You call him what you call him. She'll call him what she calls him. Generally the parent makes the rules, I'd just call him what she knows him as, or what she used last, just so she knows of whom I'm referring to when I speak to her of him. You'll find when you look up in the dictionary the term "daddy" you'll get that it's a diminuitive of "dad" which means father, which has only one definition referring to a biological aspect of itself, the rest are terms of responsibility acceptance and guidance over the dependant at hand.

Answer 8

I think if she wants to call him daddy let her, as she gets older she will realize the situation and call him what she feels in her heart is appropriate.

Answer 9

I wish you had said how old your daughter is. If she's old enough, just ask her what she wants to call him, and ask him what he wants to be called. Is her real father involved in her life? What does she call him? His feelings should probably be considered in this. Whatever you decide, that's what you should call him in front of her.

Answer 10

there's no reason to. I call my husband by his name, Mike, and although he is the biological father there's no reason for me to call him dad. He's not my dad :D. If she's comfortable doing it and he's the one there doing the "daddy" things I think it's great that she's calling him that.