My bf is being really confusin.He says he's bin filing empty lately but he doesn't kno what about.He says he also has doubts about us sometimes but he doesn't want to break up.He says he still cares about me.It took us thinkin he broke up w/ me and him thinkin I broke up w/ him to make him open up & only because I asked him what was going on.I fil like if he cared about me,he wouldn't shut me out like he is.I mean,he hasn't talked to me for the last 2 days at all unless I try 2 talk 2 him.He says he only doesn't talk because he doesn't want to make me confused but him not talkin makes me confused.He also won't even tell me he loves me nemore after he told me he was stressed because of this whole thing.So I guess he doesn't love me nemore??So my question is,do y'all think he wants to break up or should I just give him time or ask if he wants to take a break until he figures everything out even though him not talking to me is stressing me out really bad?I just don't want to lose him.
2006-12-01 11:38:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been together for almost 2 months.I want to help him figure out why he feels empty and find out what he's confused about but he says he just has to figure it out on his own.
2006-12-01 11:41:14 · update #1
Men process differently than women. They prefer to brood alone and work it out in their head. Women talk, talk, talk about it. The mistake women make is trying to pry a guy open to talk when that isn't their nature. Just let him sit and stew for a while. You think it's about you but he might be stewing about something else.
2006-12-01 11:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
I am a guy, I know that for me when I started going out with my fiance about a year and a half ago, I felt a little wierd at first, but I got over it. If you are in the teenage years, this is to be expected, a lot of people are not to ready to settle down yet in the young years. He may be unsure about things in his life. He may also be unsure about livin with a relationship, especially if it is something new to him. It could be a lot of things really. But, I would maybe wate for about another week and if nothing happens, then break it off with him, trust me, it will hurt a lot more down the road the longer you stay in this. A good way to find out if he is "the one" would be to try and sit down with him and talk, tell him you want to talk and share each others opinions and such. If he doesn't want to talk, that could tell ya something about him, he may not be a good listener, without listening, becomes confusion, with confusion, comes distrust. Hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Wee Man.
2006-12-01 11:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by boychuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of seems like he is too chicken sh1t to actually break up with you. Why else would he be acting like this!! He cares about your feelings but probably doesn't have the courage to break it off with you. I bet the 2 of you are still teenager's. This just reminds me of typical high school stuff. He just doesn't want to be the bad guy. What he doesn't realize is, he is actually causing you more grief by not being direct. It is hard to try to figure someone out when they are not being 100% honest.
Dump him!!!
2006-12-01 11:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was going through the same thing and it didnt end up good so some advice is be straight up with him and ask whats going on tell you need to know so you wont be wasting each others time you guys really need to talk this through.n if you do break up remember their are more guys hes not the only one. GOOD LUCK!!!!!hope ur relationship ends up better than mine.
2006-12-01 11:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by i got drama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda have 2 answers 4 u. he either wants to break up and just dosnt know how to or dosnt have the guts to do it or he is just a little tiered or has other things on his mind
2006-12-01 11:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs some time off to figure himself out. When he comes back to you, he'll be a happier person. :-)
2006-12-01 11:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Moose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie, but it sounds like he's not really into you OR he is seeing someone else on the side...
2006-12-01 11:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by Gucci Girlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to lose him and there's nothing you can do about it.
2006-12-01 11:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he does not know yet how to tell you it's over ........... you are losing him
2006-12-01 11:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋