so me and my bf are so perfect right now. and he knows that i used to have a thing with one of his friends. but he just found out that i spent a few nights with him also. i told him we didnt do anything but he said "how do you expect me to beleive that?" (and yes i slept with him a few times) should i keep my story and deny it or break it to his that i slept with him friend and risk him getting upset?
2006-12-01 11:38:01 · 15 answers · asked by xbinary_dreamsx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GRANTED i slept with his friend before i ever even met my bf!
2006-12-01 11:40:44 · update #1
your relationship isn't perfect if you're lying to him. how would you feel if he was lying to you? better for you to tell him the truth rather than his friend telling him.
2006-12-01 11:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let's see: you slept with your BF's friend BEFORE you met the BF, right?
First, why would you need to lie about that? That was a foolish road to go down.
Second, why should he care what happened before he came along? It's not like you cheated on him.
So, he's being unreasonable if he's angry at you for sleeping with your friend -- but VERY reasonable if he's angry at you for telling lies about it.
Be honest from now on, and accept the fact that since you've already told so many lies, he's unlikely to trust you now and may very well leave you. Still, if you keep on trying to lie, he already knows you lie and won't trust you no matter what -- so either way you lose, unless you tell the truth and earn his trust over time (which he may not let you do.)
This is why people shouldn't lie.
2006-12-01 19:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always be honest....if you had been before you would not be in this situation. This little b/f of yours has to understand that you had a life before him. It is not like you got a telegram before you met him saying "Don't live your life and have any experiences because you gonna meet this guy and he won't be able to handle it"
People trip me out when they get mad over their b/f or g/f having had relationships in the past. Duh, we all have a life!!
Be honest, tell him you didn't want to upset him before. If he can't handle it then he is not the guy for you...better to know now!!!
2006-12-01 19:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless your new boyfriend knows your old boyfriend I would tell him nothing. You should not be compelled to tell your past encounter with no one unless you so choose. Telling him will give him mixed feelings about you and it will always be your word regardless. Tell him that is behind you and let just forget it. Then again are you asking himn who he has slept with, if so, you can be honest or just keep your secret.
2006-12-01 19:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he already knows. Better tell the truth. Be sure to tell him how much you enjoyed it and maybe suggest a three way.
2006-12-01 19:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by superspiker69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth eventually he is going to find out so its better if you tell him right now, Good luck
2006-12-01 19:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by lilli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just have to be honest with him and tell him the truth if you really love him because a relationship should be all about telling the truth and really loving each other
2006-12-01 19:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Cheerleader657 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to be honest with him...and u should tell him everything...don't expect him to get upset but u will feel better that u told him...and why lie about something that serious
2006-12-01 19:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mystery Angel From Above 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably end up getting to him one way or another since it IS his friend... be upfront with him. He will either appreiciate the honesty and if it's love, you're fine-- if it's not... then you don't need him anyways... good luck.
2006-12-01 19:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by curry_lover4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth always comes out
tell him
before his friend tells him
2006-12-01 19:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by MoNiCa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋