Is this a form of harassment? Even sexual?

Question

Well, I am just wondering what I am supposed to do in this situation.

-My teacher is a little too comfortable on sexuality, he compliments a few of the girls in the class, like, in the middle of I test he all of a sudden said to me, "Lookin good Maddi." And, I was terribly embarrased and didn't know how to react, he had done the same thing to other girls too.

-He once said that we had to do an assignment that involved watching the TV, then he said to one of my friends Cody, "That doesn't mean you can watch the playboy channel Cody, but obviously I know you watch it"

-Then, when we were studying the reproduction of cells, I said sexual reproduction, or binary fission, and he said "Yeah, you like that."

-I also don't like how he looks at me, it makes me uncomfortable, the way he smiles at me, the way he leans in close to me when I want a simple question to be answered.



Help!

Much Love,
Maddi

Answer 1

tell your parents or the principal, thats really weird

Answer 2

Sounds like a clean cut case of sexual harrassment to me. You should tell him what he does that makes you uncomfortable and ask him to stop. Write down when and where you did this, along with any dates, times and other incidents, in a journal or something, then, if he does it again, you can go to the principle or a counsler with the dates and times this has happend before.

A scary fact that few seem to know is that there are almost 3 times more cases of sexual assault, sexual abuse and sexual misconduct among school teachers report each year than in churchs or religios organizations. Yet all we hear on the news is "Preacher molests boy." For some reason our country has a problem with stigmatizing the people who educate our children, but don't hesitate to give that same stigma to those who bestow religious education on them. Perhaps if every case like this was splashed across the headlines, educators and school districts would start to do more about these situations.

Good Luck Maddi

Answer 3

Yes, It is sexual harassment. And the old coot knows it. Time to go to the office. Maybe take a friend or two who have had similar experiences with this teacher. If you haven't already done it, tell your parents. If his behavior doesn't change within a couple of days, tell the principal/counselor/whomever that you are going to the media with the story.

Answer 4

It just sounds like the guy is really creepy. I think his comments are borderline as to what is appropriate in the classroom and what isnt. Unfortunately there is a very fine line between being "friendly" and not so stand off-ish and being so friendly that it makes the student uncomfortable. I had a teacher in college that would really make me uncomfortable simply because he was very friendly and I just wanted to come in and learn what he was teaching. He would even invite other students to his house and even though nothing bad or strange ever happened, my problem was the fact that this guy was more interested in befriending his students rather than his peers.

And I think that its akward any time an authority figure (such as a teacher) tries hard to your buddy. I even have mentors that I am very close to and that I hang out with from time to time, but the relationship still remains as mentor/mentee rather than him trying to be my buddy.

Answer 5

wow this teacher is definetly scary. I don't like the way you are making him sound. But hang in there. I don't think he is harrasing you, because he isn't doing anything directly to you. He is however, crossing the lines, and you need to tell someone, or just tell him to stop. Maybe you should transfer out of his class. He might just be gay, or trying to close the age gap between the people in your class by acting more your age.
OR HE MIGHT JUST BE PERVERTED, AND/OR EXTREMELY GAY
In his class, make sure you wear a sweat shirt at all times, and don't let him peek down your shirt, or up your skirt (but how would he do that anyways???).
I had this one perverted teacher in 6th Grade: he would always come in while the girls were changing, and had their underclothing on.
Just ignore him, and don't talk to him outside the class. Or when he tells you "you look good" just turn your face away and wrinkle your nose. or answer back "thanks". nothing more, or less, and go back to doing what you were.
pretend to be bored in his class.
do other things to. I am sorry but i can't list them, all.. I hope you figure this out, and good luck, maddi.

Answer 6

Yes, that is sexual harassment. You should report to a school counselor or a trusted teacher. I'm a college student studying to be an elementary teacher. That kind of thing makes me sick. Please do the right thing, Maddi. Report this teacher, before he acts out this kind of behavior for real.

Answer 7

This isn't cool at all. You need to talk to one of your parents about this and go from there. He shouldn't cross the line and make comments like that about how you look. There are some nasty people out there and he may be one of them. I don't know that for sure but why take the chance tell a parent or even a counselor at school.

Answer 8

I believe that in this situation you should confide in your parents and ask them to have a QUIET word at the school. I have stressed the word QUIET as I am sure that no one wishes or needs to be embarrassed further.
While you are in the school and indeed the classroom I would suggest that you avoid being alone with this man and do not stop after class for any reason unless you have a friend with you.
I can not stress enough though how vital it is that you should speak to your parents.

Answer 9

If you are uncomfortable with the way he treats you, let him know privately. Be honest, but be kind. Do this either in the hall or have another student present with you. He probably thinks that he's just connecting with his students. He will probably appreciate your feedback and will tone it down a bit. Please do not go to the administration; you could ruin his entire career. You should only go to the administration if he is touching you or saying BLATANTLY sexual things to you. Telling you that you look nice is NOT in this league.

Answer 10

The fact that it makes you uncomfortable enough to ask says to me that it's not appropriate. The last comment, regarding binary fission, was REALLY bad. I had a history teacher like this in high school. Everyone used to complain to each other about his behavior, but no one ever did anything about it. It's your call, Maddi. Can you stand to be in his class for the rest of the year?

Answer 11

Absolutely! I'd say you should tell your folks, but sometimes they question the kids. Definently let the principal know and DO NOT be afraid to talk to the police as he should not be around kids at all. He sounds very sick and I wouldn't trust him at all. Make sure you're never in a position to be alone with this teacher. Best of luck.............