My daughter is under 2yrs & so far the relationships I have begun haven't even gotten to the bedroom. I don't want to scar her emotionally by these relationships not working!
What is the right thing for me to do?
2006-12-01 11:09:58 · 17 answers · asked by h_bear1808 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
date socially, make sure she isn't introduced to anyone before a 6 month relationship has been established. Actually, really just don't worry, be choosy about who you introduce to your daughter, and be a strong woman, she will grow to understand, respect and strive to be like you. Who your dating isn't really an issue until it starts affecting your daughter. Try to make sure she has a steady male figure in her life, and she'll be just fine.
2006-12-01 11:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time for you to start dating would be whenever you are ready to honey. However, I think your question more relates to your daughter and that's totally different. If you are worried about your daughter being emotionally scarred, then take a different approach. Don't bring any men around her until you've been in the relationship for at least six months (so you know it's not just a fling). If you do, she will end up confused.
As a mother of 5, I know that is easier said than done, but that's where motels or his place will come in handy as well as a babysitter. If that's not feesible and you can't use those as options, wait until the baby is in bed before the man comes over and leaves before she wakes up.
I wish you luck on your future relationships honey...and be patient...you'll find the right one eventually.....we all do.
2006-12-01 19:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it come natural! If sex is that important leave her with a babysitter and go out and get u some, but emotionally this will not make u feel any better, physically it will..... You will find the right one to bring around ur daughter in time, DON'T RUSH! If u rush it u may settle for something or someone and be miserable! OH BY THE WAY, use protection if u decide just to get u some.... Safe sex is the best kind!
2006-12-01 19:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by fox69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a single mother too and i was is a relationship for 10 months. started when she was 2 1/2 months. it went alright during the whole time but i got to the point where i just wanted to be with my daughter and not any one else. but now i'm with a great guy and its working out. i think you just need to focus on your daughter and then if that guy is willingly to stick around after you have had a long day at work, after you have taken care of her. and he is STill there to spend time with you for the few minutes you are still alive to real world before you fall asleep. he is a keeper. he has to know when to step back, and let you do your mom thing.
2006-12-01 19:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by esha2rae_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was single for a number of years when my two girls were young. No man ever spent the night in my home or in my bed. Do not bring a man around your daughter until you are sure it is going to lead to marriage and you are sure he is a good man. This is not to say that I did not have any sexual relationships but NEVER in my home or anywhere near my girls. I did remarry some years later and had three other children. Good Luck to you, it can sometimes be a rocky road for a single mom.
2006-12-01 19:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by m2little 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my favorite movies of all times is jerry maguire, because it has all the answers to a lot of questions...
in the movie they talk about single mothers and what its like to date them " (single mothers)they've been to the puppet show and they've seen the strings" You know what dating is like and you know what happens and what is real. You need to find a man that you know will love you and your daughter and wont leave you both. Dont let anyone get attatched who will leave.
You need a real man, if you think you have found one date him.
2006-12-01 19:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by Low 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not rush it take your time ( if you just need something for the bedroom (POCKET-ROCKET) and be very careful with who you bring around your child. Or just keep all dates outside the home until you know for sure this is the right one.
2006-12-01 19:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by RealDeal82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be protective of her always and first. Keep boyfriends from getting too close with her right away. You are deciding if he's the one for you, don't complicate it with their relationship.
Of course, keep your sex life and your daughter as far apart as possible for as long as you can.
2006-12-01 19:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start seeing someone, don't introduce them to your daughter until you are in a steady relationship. Don't take him to your place, go to his.
2006-12-01 19:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you ask your self honestly you never met one you really liked. or if you liked he was not interested in you for long term relation because of your daughter. I will keep on dating & if find good one donot dare to lose him.
2006-12-01 19:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋