Ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and things have been a little rocky or smoothe in our relationship but one day we was talking and he asked me if i have ever had anal sex i mean dont get me wrong i dont mind him asking that cause we talk about anything bu tanyway i told him no and then he asked if i was going to ever let him do anal sex to me (we are sexually active) i answered no and he kept saying how he always wanted to do that and then i said well im never doing that so he said i guess it wont be with you.like he doesnt plan to have a future with me. im still young and im not ready for marriage but is there a point going with a boy if you know for sure its not going to last your going to break up at some point..what do you think about his comment?was that rude?do u think he is using me?pls answer
2006-12-01 11:01:08 · 11 answers · asked by becca . 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He basically just admitted that whatever you won't do for him, he will find someone else. So he does have intentions of cheating on you. Just let him go. If he doesn't respect your decision, you're right - there's no point in continuing. His statement was very disrespectful, and you could do better.
2006-12-01 11:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by DumBlonD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all use other people. Relationships are transactions. Just make sure you are getting back what you put into it. He's trying to control you, so it's your turn to control him.
Guys are obsessed with anal. I can't tell you the number of guys that have tried to stick it .......ok nevermind, back to you.....tell him you think it's gross or whatever but since you are active already you may want to consider it, some girls love it and some say it hurts like childbirth.
Tell him "When you are good enough at oral and straight sex to give me an orgasm EVERY time, then you have the right to bring up the other and not before."
Of course honey, he thinks right now HE DOES make you come every time and it's time to set the record straight with him and make that boy get down on his knees and work harder!
2006-12-01 19:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was pissed about not getting the anal thing and so he tried to piss you back with his comments. It's no different than any other thing if I can't get it from you then I'll find some else who can.
2006-12-01 19:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste you time with a looser.... it's your freaking life and YOU deserve to be happy.
That means that YOU choose people into YOUR life, people that will enrich and make YOUR life more interesting, easier and pleasant.
Ending up in life being a tool for someone else means you may have problems that may cause you to make bad choices... see someone that you can trust and talk too, someone wise and objective.
People that live life and enjoy suffering are called masochists... you have to ask yourself, "Do I want to live my life as a masochist?"
Choose your path.
2006-12-01 19:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by dave_martin_7777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok this " boyfriend " of yours is a complete selfish bastard. Hes trying to scare you into making you belive he will cheat on you , if you dont give him what he wants. Honey, ive been there before. If your not comfortable doing something with him, then dont!! and if hes going to play games with you and tell you " well it wont be with you then" then say . good, Id rather keep my dignity and respct for myself becase you obviously dont. Asshole!!!
2006-12-01 19:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by shellz23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you, he will stay, or if he doesnt, he'll eventually leave.
And yes that was a rude comment, you should have made him feel bad about it, because thats not right to say that
2006-12-01 19:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by See ya later aligator 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his comment was very rude and disrespectful to you, and you should let him know.
In terms of breaking up, that's really up to you. You will know when the time is right and if you have fallen out of love.
If either of you are falling out of love, it is time to say goodbye.
2006-12-01 19:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jack C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, you could be missing out on the man you are gonna marry because you are fooling around with a jerk. =)
2006-12-04 02:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by reelgoldengirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complete JERK! Don't bother with boys like that they just end up being men like that!
2006-12-01 20:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by h_bear1808 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that was a bad thing to say. Smash him.
2006-12-01 19:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by Cody B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋