My Step child stoled a lunch from another girl at school! To make matter worse she stoled the lunch from a needy girl in the lunch program! What would be a good punishment for her to make her realize what a terrible thing she has done? Serious answers Please!
2006-12-01 10:59:06 · 22 answers · asked by R R 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Just to add some more info about my step daughter, she is 10 and has ADHD, and she did have a lunch, as far as proper I can't say (she lives with her mom and we get her every second weekend) And thankyou grammar police, you know who you are!
2006-12-01 11:13:33 · update #1
What consequences is she facing at school for her actions?
You could take her to a food pantry, shelter or soup kitchen to volunteer. Let her talk to some of the people there and see how easy she has it and how much they may be struggling.
You could have her spend some of her own money to donate food to a food pantry.
You could have her pay for the other girl's lunch.
2006-12-01 11:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
That is a great question. The first thing to remember is that just because she has ADHD, it does NOT excuse such behavior. Some parents of kids with ADHD tend to blame alot of their actions on this issue. Your Stepdaughter stole something that wasnt hers. It doesnt matter if she has ADHD, blonde hair brown hair or is short or tall. The fact is she stole. My advice to you is to have her visit the house of the child that she stole from. Call her parents ahead of time, and explain the situation. Tell them what she did, and tell them you want to teach her a lesson. Work your step daughter for one day.. tell her she is earning back what she stole. After that day is over, take her to Mc Donalds and have her order the other child's fav meal (per permission from her parents) and your step daughter gets nothing. Explain to your Step daughter what she did wrong. Have her go over there and deliver it. Have her apologize to her. Talk to her parents, and let the two children talk and play. When you leave.. ask her if they are now friends... when she says yes.. say, "would you steal from her now?" when she says no, explain that stealing is never a good idea. I really think it will make her think.. by the way you wrote, she sounds old enough for this. Good Luck.. and thanks for being such a great step parent!!!!
2006-12-01 21:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by WestWife 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tough to say. I would have her dad give her the spanking of her life. However I could just see her mom using that against him. I would have your husband call the mom and try to work out a punishment that you both agree on. In reality, I would hope mom and dad both understand her need for a good old fashioned spanking here. Forget ADHD, yes I believe in the disorder, however the ADHD didn't make her steal the lunch, her misguided thought process did. I hope your husband makes her face the music, that is exactly what she needs.
I said tough one because or the divorce. If parents do get divorced the better they can work together in regards to their children the better the child will be for it. Your doing right by not entering in the punishment process.
2006-12-02 05:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm SOOO sick of people using the ADHD as an excuse for their child doing something wrong!! I'm NOT saying YOU are...I've read so many questions and they all point to this disability like it's a excuse for the child to act that way...SHE WAS WRONG!!! DEAD WRONG!!!
I agree with alot of these people...take her to serve homeless people lunch...or Make her responsible for STEALING!! IF that was you or I someone would have reported it to the police...because she's a child...report it to the school...make an example out of her..show other kids that IT'S NOT OKAY to steal from ANYONE!! (not just those who have nothing!) Make her pay for the girls lunch with money YOU make her EARN by doing chores around the house...EVERY penny to the girl she stole from...don't let her think this is okay!!
2006-12-02 10:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would make her buy the girl lunch from her allowance and apologize to her for what she did. She could also make her a special lunch from home and take it to her. Put special things in it like a candy bar for dessert or maybe something out of the ordinary for her that she really would be surprised with but I would make sure that your daughter's teacher knew about it and the workers in the cafeteria so they know she will definitely do it. Then that day your daughter gives her that lunch, your daughter eats the cafeteria food.
2006-12-01 23:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Holly B 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well she should go hungry for lunch a day . Have her take a replacement lunch(es) in on Monday....to give to the kids along with a note for the teacher explaining why. This wont kill her but she will learn something, especially if she is made to apologize directly as she gives the victims the replacement.
If it were me this is exactly how I would do it. if you feel bad... then you could let her have a bread and butter as her lunch.
2006-12-01 19:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by DrVodka 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first off, god forbid anyone's children make a mistake. Everyone is about ready to throw the child to the wolves. I would say talk to her and find out why. Explain to her that what she did was wrong. Take her to a chairty she can help out with. Hey who knows maybe the other child was bullying her and she just hasn't said anything to anyone. It may have been her way of getting back. Talk with her that is the most important thing. If she does it again then maybe a harsher punishment.
2006-12-01 20:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by ccdispatch911 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First I have to say I am really sorry there are such jerks out there answering your question. It's too bad ya can't track them down! I feel for you w/ the ADHD syndrome. My son is 7 & has the same. Explain to her that was wrong, make her go to church & tell the priest what she did & have her write an apology letter ok & have the lunch mom's keep an eye on her. Good luck!
2006-12-01 23:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by pinky 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Mine would first get paddled.
I would then try to expose her to something like a soup kitchen or perhaps doing a bit of volunteer work with an organization helping the poor--somewhere where she could see real poor people and actually meet some and see what it is like.
2006-12-01 20:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make her apologize to the other child.
Take away privileges (video games, tv, toys).
Not sure how old she is, but it may be a good idea to show her how truly needy people have very little. Maybe a homeless shelter or women's shelter. Explain the toys for tots program and have her pay for/choose a toy to donate. It's a major reality check for a privileged child to see how life is on the other side.
good luck.
mari
2006-12-01 19:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by mari m 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋