I really think my brother is gay he is 15 and he is into music like the scisor sisters and madonna he likes other things that girls like!!should i confront him????
2006-12-01 10:54:33 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are his brother and family........ you should be close enough to him to confront him, but in a positive way. Accept him for whatever he chooses and love him unconditionally.
2006-12-01 10:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by bonbon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way i see it is that if he hasn't told you yet is because he isn't ready to come out. If you ask and he isn't ready than he definatly won't tell you the truth. That's assuming that he realy is gay.
He could just like the music you know. It can be his style. Not sure were you live but i live in new york and here there are alot of metro guys who come off as gay but can't be any farther from it. I would just let sleeping dogs lie and wait untill he's ready. Or you could just move on with your own life and stay out of his Sorry to sound so blunt in that last sentence lol
2006-12-01 11:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by sined 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't confront him. You won't get much, especially if he feels like you would be angered or upset about it. If he is, maybe he's ashamed and cares what you think and doesn't know how to tell you yet or maybe he's not gay, just one of the sensitive guys we girls love so much. If he is, he needs you to be there for him because you are his brother. You may not like it, you may feel it's his business but either way don't just turn away. Asking him may make him feel like you think he's girlish when he's not gay or make him introverted to keep anyone else from finding out if he is. If you talk anyway, just let him know that he's your brother and he's important to you and anytime he needs to talk or has questions he can always talk to you. If kids aren't talking to family, they are talking to SOMEONE and you never know what they are putting in their heads. If he knows he has an open line of communication, he will seek you out because he knows it's okay.
Hope it helps.
2006-12-01 11:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by betterthanhers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont think it is a good idea to confront him just like that face to face.
Sit with him, and talkin general topics, and then tell him a story about a friend of yours who was gay and how his parents discovered that and his brother as well, and how he faced some difficulties and had bad tmes...etc.
You can see the reaction of his face and act accordingly.
If he is gay, he will try to ask many questions about your friend: why he faced problems? why he had bad times? how did he know or you know that he is gay?...etc.
If he didnt give attention to what you told him, I think he is not, he only has a taste of these songs and madonna and these things...etc
2006-12-01 11:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Khaled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your brother being homosexual requiring a confrontation. He is still your brother. If you are curious, ask him. Stick with him and let him know he's your brother no matter what. Remember, you would expect the same from him if you were telling a big life decision.
2006-12-01 10:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about what exactly? If that's how he is, there's nothing you can say or do to change him. Don't treat him any different - if he is gay, he'll have to deal with ridicule and harassment from others, and it's best that you have his back and let him know you're there for him and love him no matter what.
2006-12-01 10:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by DumBlonD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother is gay. I found some gay porn in his room before he came out to me. That's how I found out. But I didn't say anything to him about it. He came out to me when he was ready.
No need to confront him. That might make him feel like he's done something wrong, when in fact, it's not a choice.
2006-12-01 12:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by bubblesnap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother might not be gay. There's a wide variety of music out there and your brother just so happens to like it. AND, if he is gay, let him come out on his own. Just be there for him.
2006-12-01 11:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let 'em alone, everyone has to figure this thing out for themselves. There's not an instruction book for living you know..
Besides, why does the kind of music he likes determine his sexual orientation? If he was a country fanatic, would you deem him a redneck?
2006-12-01 11:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be there to let him know that you still love him. I dont think you should confront him because that will just make him feel bad about himself, closet gays dont like to be told that they act gay, it makes them sad.
2006-12-01 11:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by Apples and Mapples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋