Should I ask for a gift I want this X mas from my dad or be happy with whatever he gives me (details)?

Question

My dad always gets me outrageous gifts at christmas, gifts that I never end up using. I end up feeling bad that he spent $ on stuff I don't need, or want, or will ever use.
There are practical stuff that I really need and want, (not pricy either).

would it be OK to TELL him what I'd like for christmas (and at least use it/enjoy it), or just let him buy me whatever he usually does and tossing it or keeping it but not ever using it?

thanks guys

Answer 1

From what you have described, I think I would talk to your Dad about his Christmas gifts for you. You can say things in a kind way, that you appreciate his generosity, but there are actually things that you need/want that would be more useful to you. It sounds as though he really doesn't have a clue or possibly because of his lavish spending he is making himself feel better for not spending enough time with you or whatever. And I don't mean either of those comments to be derogatory toward your Dad.
I think if you just sit down and talk to him in a kind and thoughtful way, he just might appreciate your candor and openness.

Answer 2

Some of the answers you have already received have provided very good advice.

I also offer this idea: Tell/ask your dad to try "something different."
Ask him to write down a few things he wants for Christmas. You will do the same and exchange lists. If he hasn't already bought you something, this will give him some ideas about what to get you.

Hopefully, this will be useful and you may get something practical and relatively inexpensive.

Answer 3

just do what I do - leave post-its his computer and fridge telling him exactly what you want. This time of year I make a screensavor that is made up of pictures of everything I hope to get. Sometimes a hint is better that actaully saying what you want. A hint gives your dad the opportunity to still get what ever he wants to get you - while letting him know what your hoping for. This way no hurt feelings!! Trust me this has worked for me the past 3 years!!

Answer 4

What I ask my kids to do is write down several things that they want and then I choose from them. I do the same. that way we get what we nne or really want and not just a bunch of stuff. We all have enough of that. So, just approach him about it and see how he feels. Maybe he could get you one thing that you don't have on the list but, I'd just explain it and I'm sure he'd be happy to know.

Answer 5

especially if what you want is practical and cheaper, go for the talk,
he can always throw in a little extra of those white elephants,
but if you want something expensive (you already said you don't), that is tacky.
my sister demands that everybody make a wish list, young and old.
your dad probably be happy to get what you want.
i wouldn't tell him you didn't like previous presents of course.

Answer 6

Just say "Daddy, you always spoil me with your gifts and I love it. But if you don't have something picked out for me yet, I want to go more 'practical' this year. I think I'm growing up!"

Be sure to thank him for his thoughtfulness and generosity!

There is always a way to put a positive spin on things. Don't be negative!

Answer 7

If he's going to give you gifts anyway, by all means let him know what you prefer instead of getting you gifts you don't like or will never use.

Answer 8

maybe you should just ask him for money for x-mas. so you can get what you want and not having to hurt your fathers feelings

Answer 9

Be a little more appreciative for what you do get. Grow up.