i have a girl well i'm not sure what we are now but we still talk and we had sex a couple of times since what happened happen, now what happened. well i was staying at my girls house for awhile and one day i was on the computer, went through her e-mail a forund out that she had sent a dude a pic of her nude well she had thongs on. and i was upset about it packed my stuff left the house called her and confronted her about, come to find out or so she says she did it on perpouse cause she thought i was going through her e-mail anyway, she said i disapointed her by my actions and she or well i gave her my key to the house back, but honestly i don't want to lose her, and she said that she wants to start over and take things slow cause we started of gun-ho having sex almost everyday, the only time we didn't is when she was to tired from the night before, we really didn't spend time out of the house but lately we have been i've took her to lunch a few times and got plans to go
2006-12-01 10:08:51 · 7 answers · asked by K-Def 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
out this weekend, but today i told her i respect the fact that we decided to start over and do things right. then she said ok, i asked her is this something she really wanted she said she didn't know, cause i had dissapointed her and she just want to make sure it will work, i love this woman to death she's older then me like by 11 years i'm 26 but we have a crazy attraction and her kids like me alot do anyone i mean anyone have any advice on how i should handle my situation, it's not for me it's for my aching heart, everytime we talk and we start to talk about us and she go into how i disapointed her i just get real sad like i'm on the brink of crying, help
2006-12-01 10:14:01 · update #1
Friend - If you can work things out and re-establish trust in your relationship AND base it on something besides sex, then go for it.
However: And this is for everyone, getting on someone's computer, reading their documents or email or anything else unless they expressly give you permission is an invasion of privacy and is ethically wrong. Yes, we all know it can be done, email can be hacked, the government may well do it, but for heavens sake that does not make it right.
Conversely, for everyone - please realize that NOTHING on your computer is safe or private. Do NOT put things on your computer that you would be ashamed to have your mother see (its a good litmus test).
GBY
2006-12-01 10:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, I want to personally say that if you feel as if you are doing good with her now, thats great. But the only thing I want to see clear up is the communication. Communication is the key anyways. Now that you two are talking more and spending some one on one time you can define on what level you are. "good friend" or "mess arounds" or maybe a couple. So I think you are doing just fine. Oh and the only thing that honestly bothered me is that if she "wanted to perpously set you up" lets say, she could've done it a little bit with more respect towards her and you as well. And after the communication line opens up the trust should follow right after.Good Luck.
2006-12-01 18:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Datgurl23 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well keep talking to her and let her know you love her and want to be with her. why in the world would you go through her stuff in the first place unless you didn't trust her. trust is a big thing in a relationship. so apologize to her and show her you love her and respect her. Good Luck
2006-12-01 18:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what she says and keep living with her. And tell apologize and tell her you trust her.
2006-12-01 18:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am confused as well
2006-12-01 18:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an annoying ****** question!
2006-12-01 18:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very confusing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-01 18:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋