i am an aunt to an eight yrs old and he's afraid mom will leave and not come back?

Question

The little boy is eight yrs old and fears mom is going to leave him and not come back.... his dad walked out on them four months ago and he is having a hard time dealing with it.... the mom can't seem to make him understand she won't leave him.. what should she do about this ??? she tell him she will be gone one hour and he will clock her until she come in the door... and if she's just one minute late he start crying and throwing a fit....

Answer 1

oh so sorry this is always hard for a kid to deal with but all she can do is prove it my mom was married 5 times and always dating so there had been allot of guys to come and go out of my mom and us kids lives and no matter what she never left or tuned her back on us even after we broke her heart she was always there door wide open and her arms ready for us to cry in. she never told us she would always be ther she just showed us. but it is scary my mom also had 3 other kids before me and they lived with the grandparents and she ran away to another state so it was always at the back of my mind but she was always there never left me. my sympathy goes out to them god bless.

Answer 2

You can't do anything about it. He has good reason to worry that his mother will abandon him since the fact that his father abandoned him is a reality. It's his mother's fault too for choosing to have children with the type of man who does this. Although she can't turn back the clock, she can make sure she doesn't do something that thoughtless and stupid again or, next time, the consequences will be even more severe.

Eventually, her son will recover somewhat from this, although never fully. The extent to which he does will depend on how good a mother she is. If she is a crappy mother, expect him to grow up neurotic and worse. If she is a good mother, he will have problems but, the older he becomes, the more he will deal with them. The way you know you did the right thing is he grows up to be the type of man who would never dream of doing that to a woman or their children.

Answer 3

i have had dealings with children in the past regarding this.at the age of 8, lukily now it is new age with cell phones. y not find a cheap phone to keep him in contact with her whil she is gone.another way is to use reverse psychology and every time aunt tks him away mum craks t fit,with that he can see how his reactions make her feel.you hv2do this at least3times for him to think it is genuine,coz theyr clever at 8.maybe pt your clocks bak half hour before school and when he goes to leav you have time to do this,and he wont be late.

Answer 4

help him see that he is loved by his mother and that she won't leave him, talk her into having a day with him, fun stuff that he likes, but explian that a mothers love is something that you can't get rid of that easily, she could tell him how she feels when she isn't with him,

Answer 5

i dont know what u should do but the mom should talk to her son and tell him that his mom is not leaving him

Answer 6

that's boy's fears come out of father's leaving... usually it is peculiarity of intravert type..
..try to involve the boy in something - sports, arts, music etc. - that will help him to forget his fears...))