I had a back problem, and have since found that my spine is crumbling, and now spend alot of time in a wheelchair, I had to give up work and am getting really fed up with myself, and very weepy.
2006-12-01 09:46:56 · 7 answers · asked by seaman01 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Hey, steady on, I had this problem several years ago and I live my life to the full. It's not the end of the road for you, with a good crowd of friends you'll be surprised to find that life is actually better because your disability will bring out the best of them. Stick to it my friend, your life has just begun.
2006-12-01 09:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by tucksie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand. Life deals some unexpected blows and just when you feel like your life is on track it really is quite a shock to discover that something can happen that you have no control over that will change your life completely.
It takes a long time to adjust to a major life changing event. You have to go through a grieving process for what you had and what you face. Much time may be spent thinking back to how it was and yearning for that again....and this is normal...it's part of how we come to terms with something.
So let the tears come...you have a right to feel sad or angry and it is not self pity...it's adjusting.
The period after this is often....what will I do now...is there ANYTHING I can do? This not knowing time can be depressing and scary because you may feel there's nothing out there for you.
But there is....it's just that it can take some time to discover exactly what it is.
So when you feel ready let the experimenting begin! Try anything that you haven't tried before....I was never a hobby person but have over time found things that I love to do and of course tried many things that were not for me but you can only know by having a go.
I think it would be good for you to start investigating what's going on in your community....it really is an eye opener...when I worked I didn't realise just how much was going on....and something for everyone! Find out if there are any groups with people in a similar situation to you.
I think the main thing to do is make sure you have a timetable for the week. Write one out and have at least one thing you will do each day even if it is coffee with a friend. It gives you a focus for the day. It is better if you can get out of the house...find assistance to do this if you can...then when you come home...it's nice to be home.
You will in time find another way of living....right now you may not believe that you can...but you will. You need to make some effort to do this though for the sake of your mental health.
The world can still be an enriching place....I promise you.
I hope this helps, best wishes.
2006-12-01 18:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i have this problem had a stroke 5 yrs ago and nothing is the same my doctor asked me why i concentrate on thing i cannot do any more when i should be concentrating on what i can go to a doc and get some advice and maybe someone to talk to some people in wheelchairs have a great life and some don't its up to you what you do with your life and i know it seems hard at the moment but try to get out and about it you can join clubs for people with the same problems did you see that program about disabled people who were on extreme challenge in a desert i couldn't do that when i was well so there is life after wheelchair OK
2006-12-01 17:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by julie t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i too am having to re-adjust.this time last year i got what i thought was a just a virus,i had aches and general pains and very stiff joints, i thought they would just go away it still hasn't.By Feb/march last year i was unable to walk or dress myself, I was like that for two months,i thought the doctors thought i was making it up because there was and still is nothing showing up in tests,they don't know what it is,i can get about now and most days i only have a bit of swelling and soreness,i don't think it is going away,and I am 31 with three little kids I liked to be active and always doing something,I can't even walk them to school now.I too am finding it all a bit too much.when we are at home looking at only ourselves things can get intense around us knowing who we were,but not knowing who we are now,or will be tomorrow
2006-12-02 13:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by tallulaberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your your problem.
I was active. Rugby & Athletics. Knee problems cut my active life down. Not as severely as you but still distressing. I remain in touch with the clubs and sports that I enjoyed as a youngster. Keep in touch and try to keep involved with aspects of your old life. You have time for reflection & research and can make the fruits of your research and experience available to younger colleagues. Don't give up. Good luck
2006-12-01 17:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Steve K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get really fat. I hope you don't have a quack dr who won't give you anything for pain. If you find any hobbies you like, let me know. Use thick bed pillows on your chairs. A good mattress works miracles.
2006-12-01 17:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe immobile phyically, but not mentally. Challenge yourself in a different ways.
2006-12-01 17:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by next1vfr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋