My best friend is THE biggest flirt EVER! Any help?

Question

Well, I have a really good friend; I'll call her Beth. Whenever I or any of my other friends tell her our newest crush, she proceeds to talk to that crush. She then begins flirting. She's not aware she's flirting--she's been doing it since the third grade, maybe even younger. While she's flirting with our crushes, the rest of us stand in a corner, to shy to approach our crushes. Sometimes our crushes begin to ask her out, and, as she doesn't like them, she says no.
Well, about eight months ago, my crush (of whom she flirted with, though he thankfully didn't flirt back)--shall I call him Bob?--asked me out. We are still going out, and, even though we're a couple, my friend continues to flirt. She had a boyfriend once before, though she does not make a good girlfriend--she calls too much, demands too much, IS too much. Anyway, Bob sees her as a friend now, and he talks about her sometimes when he calls me. It upsets me when he does, though, since I fear he might like her. Help?

Okay, I'm gonna finish what I started. My friend is oblivious to her flirting problem. We all tell her she flirts too much, though she goes right on flirting. She hugs most of the guys she flirts with, and ALMOST hugged my guy, Bob! Thankfully she caught herself. What I'm asking is how to tell if my guy could possibly like her and how to tell. Also, I'd like to know how to get her to leave my guy alone! One more thing... I'd also like some sympathy! :) Please help!!!

By the way, my boyfriend and I DO flirt, and it's fun when we do, so I understand why my friend does it. But then, I don't. It's my boyfriend, can't she respect that?

Answer 1

Ask your friend to stop nicely, or have a talk with her.

Answer 2

i know it's a hard situation for u.... u need to stay away from friends like that.... i know u know her for a really long time but how can u trust her??? by the sound of it she really doesn't respect u.... there are boundaries in a friendship that u should not cross and flirting with ur friends boyfriend is one of them.... I'm not saying stop being friends with her but whenever u and ur boyfriend are going to be together make sure she is not around.... and if she starts asking for him SPEAK UP and tell her to back off... tell her not to worry about him.... she will get the picture... and if she gets upset OH WELL it was for the best anyway.... u have to make her respect u!! NOW HAS FOR HIM start dressing really sexy when u see him.... make him alittle jealous.... when he speaks to u about her brush off the question and he will get the point..... and if he keeps asking about her well all i can say is MOVE ON!! to someone who will respect you, and care about ur feelings.... i hope for the best for you!!!

Answer 3

well, sounds like to me your friend needs to know the trouble she is causing all her friends,... maybe you other girls should practice some of the same things, once you start talking to the guys, it's so much easier. And believe it or not, guys make really good friends too, my best friend is a guy and I am 35. He's been my friend since 8th grade...

Answer 4

ok, so i will show sympathy. i really DO feel bad for you. your boyfriend "bob" doesn't like her as a girl friend like you. if he did he would be flirting back. you could tell ur friend "beth" that the flirting problem is really bugging you. or she might not.but that's kind of who she is. maybe you shouldn't tell her who ur crush is. or tell her that is she keeps on flirting with ur crush/boyfriend that you'll never tell her who you like. hope that helps. ♥

Answer 5

Approach said person, slap her with a glove, and challenge her to a duel on the grounds of her insulting your dignity. Offer to let her choose her weapon of choice. She'll probably look at you like you were crazy and won't respond. Then you can chose a weapon for her because she'll be flabberghasted. Chose waffels, at dawn. When she inevitably doesn't show, you can boast about your supperiority and her cowardice and eventually she'll think you're crazy and leave you and your men alone.

Answer 6

You need to stop bringing her into your love life. Why are you telling her who your crushes are??? She obviously has low self esteem and likes to lead men on. She comes out with such confidence which makes you pull back in front of your crushes. Its easy for her to do that since she doesn't like them. why are you insecure about yourself? Your mad that Bob talks about her but don't you talk about her to him? It looks like your just jealous. If she's interfering with your love life then stop being friends with her or don't tell her about your relationships.

Answer 7

If he liked her more than you, he'd be with her, period. Sounds like your friend is really insecure about herself, which would explain her need for constant attention. First of all, don't tell her anymore about your crushes. Secondly, it sounds like you're just going to have to wait it out...hopefully she will grow out of this phase. If she doesn't, then she can look forward to a life of loneliness, because no man wants to be with a woman who wants to be with everyone else!

Answer 8

she's proberly a bit like me then! because, i'm completly obvious to it, and a friend of mine said 2 me "the hell do u flirt lyk that" i was like what? its a concous effort of a lot of people, but not for all, she may just see it as being friendly not nessersarlly flirting.

Answer 9

It sounds like that is just her personality. If it bothers you so much mention it to her or if it continues after you have asked her not to break off your friendship with her.

Answer 10

I have a friend just like that, exept shes so despret, she would go out with my crush if he asked her.

(just don't tell her your crushes anymore.)