Um well I thought about a three some with my ex, but we never did it. Well my bestfriend from highschool wants me to join her and her boyfriend. I thought about it but I don't think a best friend is a good choice, I mean it is in a way because of the STDs and stuff out there now. But what are the chances this would ruin her relationship and our friendship? Its a bad idea isn't it?
2006-12-01 09:30:41 · 11 answers · asked by Sabrina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't ever want to risk me being involved with her relationship going to shambles.
2006-12-01 09:31:17 · update #1
Yes it is a bad idea. Although it may sound fun and intriguing, your heart is telling you truthfully, that you shouldn't do it. Listen to it, and even if asked don't get involved in another's intimate relationship you'll only be setting yourself and other up for emotional hurt and loss. Trust me, it's a REALLY bad idea.
2006-12-01 09:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are this could ruin their relationship, and your friendship. I mean if for some reason your friend feels like her bf pays more attention to you, or he even develops feelings for you and, starts contacting you, and worse case you decide you want him too. Chances are if that happens and you want to be with him...he will probably do what he did to her to you, drop you when something better comes along. So in the end if you do this you are risking your friendship first and for most, and like you mentioned above your health. Be careful and be smart please, just think before you act.
2006-12-01 17:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our rule: "It's easier to make friends of swinger than swingers of friends."
Sex adds a whole another dimension to a relationship. When the relationship starts with sex (such as in a swinging situation) than that part of it is already defined and the rest of a normal friendship can develop. But adding sex to a friendship changes the friendship, where as adding friendship to sex doesn't change either.
If their relationship is on solid ground than a threesome won't hurt it. But, you'd be wise to not be the third unless all three of you have thoroughly discussed the rules, boundries, and how your feelings and relationship will change afterward and all three of you are on the same page.
2006-12-02 03:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off. If your friend doesn't have an STD and she is having sex with him then there's not a problem. The chances of you breaking them up is 50/50. He could wind up liking you more and then leaving her. I don't know what to tell you. If it makes you uncomfortable then don't do it.
2006-12-01 17:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin's Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds liek a god idea but i find it when you try a 3some for the first time with a girl and guy you become curious about women and become BI. Try it sounds liek a fun experience to try out. I've had mant chances to try it but have chickened out . I think you will enjoy it. It's so much fun though! i recommend it!
2006-12-01 17:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. I have mixed feelings. You are right about the best friend part and if something in their relationship goes wrong, she might blame you if you did the 3some and it liked like you enjoyed it too much.
2006-12-01 17:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always the possibility of friendships being ripped apart. BUT...you have the best combination.
She is asking you to join. Usually, girls won't ask another to join.
Also...MOST important...Most of HIS attention needs to be directed towards her. Then, she won't get jealous and that's what usually breaks up the friendship.
2006-12-01 17:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you I'm in the same boat you can't put it all on you because they chose!!! so if they break up due to the 3 way it's all on them
Have FUN BE SAFE....pleeeeaaaassseee!!!
2006-12-01 17:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Big Henzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can only Love one as only one can Love you, a 3some makes no-sense
2006-12-01 17:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do that with your best friend (especially with her bf too). if you do, BE SAFE SAFE SAFE! CONDOMS CONDOMS CONDOMS!
2006-12-01 17:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by sfpd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋