I am dating this guy who when we met had just gotten out of a relationship. A relationship where they were eachothers FIRST EVERYTHING. In the beginning it seemed as if he was moving forward with me. Now it is different. Hes told me that he does not know where to go.
He wants to move forward, but then again she has a hold on him still. We havent slept together b/c he wants his feelings to be finalized. In the mean time during their separation she has slept another guy. Even with this he still is considering taking her back.
I reas his text messages, and shes telling him she loves him. We're all pratically grown, in our 2nd yrs college, but her parents still treat her like a child. Her parents are saying they wont pay for her school if she continues to talk to him. With that, Im almost posititve I walked in on a convo when she was suggesting they live together. I only heard his responses. He said getting a place together would complicate things.
2006-12-01 08:52:47 · 4 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im feeling so insecure. i wasnt worried about her because she goes to school 5 hours away and they dont see eachother until breaks. i felt i had the upper hand in that im always around. and that we are more compatible (his words). she has the upper hand of history.
im getting the feeling she is laying it on thick and hes inching more towards her. I dont want to play tug of war. I really like him though. im afraid by leaving she wins automatically. by staying i risk my feelings being shot.
what do i do? he says he needs time? but how much do i give him. x-mas break is coming and they will have 3 weeks without me around to be togther. i think after that he should make a choice. is this dumb? should i just end it all. by leaving maybe hell come to me?
2006-12-01 08:57:00 · update #1
Please allow the poor guy to have some breathing space so he can get his head on straight before you go giving him ultimatums. You don't want to be the rebound chick anyway if he chooses you right now. Let him spend the three weeks with her and hopefully he will return to your college with a new outlook on things and say that he's glad he got to spend the time with her and he now realizes that she has been playing with his emotions since they separated. That would be the correct time to ask if you and he have any hope of uniting I believe.
2006-12-01 09:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl, wow... I havent had this experience but I do understand what you are feeling. It's hard to say but if he's not 100% done with his past relationships in his head and heart you deserve someone else. I realize for him it is hard to get over your first everything but he made the mistake in jumping into a new relationship before making sure he was over the past. I dont know what to tell you to do but think about that and maybe it will help... good luck girl and stay strong :)
2006-12-01 17:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! Ask for an explanation and if he either refuses to give one or if ur assumptions are correct, dump him and move on. I wish I could help more but that's what has to happen.
2006-12-01 17:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has an attachment to her unfortunately. He needs to completely let it go before he can move on with anyone. Sorry that sucks. Gool Luck!!!
2006-12-01 16:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by belladonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋