Me and my girlfriend met a few years ago and were just friends for a long time. Then about 4 months ago we discovered that we had feelings for each other. We haven't had sex and do not plan to, but no one believes that. they think that there's no way a 25 year old guy could date a 17 year old girl and not have sex with them. That's not true in my situation. I really do care for this girl and we just have a really good time together. It just makes me mad that everyone thinks i'm a pedophile or something like that, cause I have the best of intentions for this girl and she loves me just as much as i love her. So tell me why that's wrong.
2006-12-01 08:50:56 · 14 answers · asked by Gary M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was 16 when i had my first serious relationship! He was 25! And it lasted 4 years! And there is nothing wrong with that!
2006-12-05 05:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Angelina 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with it whatsoever. I admire you both for it. From the way you write, I get the impression you're British, not American. So you're no paedophile given that she's over 16 (the age of consent). I think the best kinds of relationships are based on friendship and spending quality time together. From there, attraction often grows. Whether or not you two sleep together is your business, nobody else's, although because you have all this history, if/when you do, it will be better than anything you can imagine. Congratulations and good luck to you both. PS I'm 21 in case anyone here thinks I'm in my 50s or something, lol
2006-12-01 23:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you probably do have the best intentions for her, but the reason society thinks it's wrong is because a normal 17 year old girl doesn't think like an adult yet because she is not one. Think back to when you were 17, you probably thought you knew everything about life and that you knew what you wanted and turned out that you didn't. That's the same thing that girl probably thinks she knows what she wants in life, but she doesn't think like an adult to make that decision yet. If you really care for her, just be friends with her until she turns 18 and hopefully by then she will be able to think like an adult.
2006-12-01 08:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by freddie4ever143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is NOT wrong. It is just different thats all. And most people do not have a concept of "different". Probably what people dont get is that why wont u have sex together if u love one another? U are definitely not a Paedophile. If i were u i'd not bother telling people what u and this girl get up to behind closed doors. At least that way no one can judge u. Enjoy your relationship u have every right to be happy!
2006-12-01 08:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in YOUR case it doesn't seem that wrong that you are dating a girl that is a little young....but generally that is somewhat of an age difference. 17 is a little too young for a 25 year old, the maturity levels are usually quite distinct....but if you do really have feelings for this girl then it should be cool that you guys date and everyone should be cool with it too
just to be on the safe side though wait till shes 18 to have sex
2006-12-01 08:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your relationship is wrong. Your girlfriends parents may be concerned that you don't sleep together but they should take her word for it. I admire you for waiting before getting physical - it shows how much you care for her. When I was 16 I started going out with a guy who was 24 and we didn't get physical either. My parents were worried to start with but everything turned out ok in the end. We dated for 8 years.
2006-12-01 09:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that YOU don't know is scary! Either you're very immature or she's very mature---Either way, she's not even an adult yet-and YOU ARE. You're going to end up in jail, my friend. You should follow your better judgement and start hanging out with friends you own age...Not highschoolers. If you have the best of intentions, you wouldn't even be hanging around her and filling her young mind with ideas that are NOT healthy. Seek professional help and stay away from her.
2006-12-01 09:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason is because she a minor and your an adult. And if your smart wait till she's 18 before trying anything, becuae if you piss the parents off, guess what could happen to you? Not a clue do you? Want to go to jail? If no just keep your hands to yourself till she's 18, ok
2006-12-01 08:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect you. It's not wrong as long as you wait til she's 18. Good for you =)
2006-12-01 09:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong as long as it stays the way it is until she is 18. I think you need to stop worrying about what others think..
2006-12-01 08:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋