I've been trying since September to get a guest list together for my wedding and I have my side done but I've been asking my fiance and his mom to put one together and they haven't yet. Its beginning to frusterate me because we want to have an outdoor wedding and I need to know how many people will be attending so I can decide where I want to have it. How can I let them know that they need to get a move on without sounding rude.
2006-12-01 08:48:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your going to have to set a specific date and time for the three of you to get together for that sole purpose. Make an evening out of it so it can still be fun. Dinner? Make sure all parties that attend bring all the needed items with them (names, phone numbers addresses ect) with the set mind that this is what you all will be completing before the evening ends. good luck.
2006-12-01 08:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime when the three of you are together pull out a piece of paper and a pencil and just say "okay, it's time we decided on who you want to invite. I brought along the material so lets put our heads together and come up with your list now". There is no need to be rude but just explain the situation as you have here and let them know that time is getting down and you have to have these names and numbers so you can plan next stage. Good luck and happy wedding.
2006-12-01 08:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, that's not all as a lot as you basically because you're the bride. you're united 2 households the following, and under no circumstances taking any of them into interest can be a very undesirable first step. That suggested, it really is unreasonable of them to verbally invite human beings that you do not even comprehend. clarify to them that your huge style one rule is that purely human beings you both comprehend will be attending the marriage, and that those associates should not be receiving formal invites. in the adventure that they persist in extending verbal invites, they are going to look very stupid certainly. and do not enable your fiance stand again in this one. they're HIS mom and father, he desires to tackle this. The shopper record ought to ideally be even, which signifies that an equivalent type of travellers are on your household as for his. yet this isn't a tricky and quick rule. once you've a huge family individuals and your fiance has a small one, and he concurs, it really is totally acceptible that you may have extra travellers...yet no longer each of the travellers. once you're inviting ninety and he receives 10, that's no longer honest no count number how large your household is. possibly you should indicate that his mom and father throw a post-wedding ceremony reception in Sussex sometime after the marriage, and they could plan it notwithstanding they want. Edit: i love Uncle Jo's suggestion! in the adventure that they are adament about the six, ask them which different six they want bumped off to accomodate them!
2016-10-16 11:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out tell them that time is up. Let them know that you need to book the site and you're doing it at the end of the week, so you need their lists by then. If they don't turn them in to you then they'll just have to not be invited to the wedding. unfortunately sometimes you just have to play hardball when it comes to weddings. Make sure that your fiance is the mediator in all of this, though. Good luck!
2006-12-01 09:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by bulldogsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same exact problem. We literally had the invitations and save the date cards picked out and ordered and I was waiting on my fiance and soon to be mother in law to finish the list so I could call the store and give her the number and finalize the order...I finally had to go over there and sit them down and say "we are doing this right now!!!" I know its stressful and annoying believe me but you might have to help things move along.
2006-12-01 10:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by addisonsmom17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a deadline and tell them that after that, you're moving ahead with what they've got. Tell them that you really want to book a great place and if you wait too long, everything will be taken. Some of the better places are booked 2 years in advance.
2006-12-03 09:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a frustrating situation. I think that all you can do is give them a deadline. If they don't have the guest list by then, tell them that you are allowing them 20 guests (or some reasonable number) and stick to your guns. Then plan for that.
2006-12-01 08:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by Fall Down Laughing 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that to have the wedding you need to stick with the timeline. Give them until a certain date to get it done, and then go with what you have. Maybe you could work on it with them, so you could compile the total numbers at the same time.
2006-12-01 08:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a deadline. Can you put together a list of those that you know will be invited for sure (like aunts, uncles, cousins, ect) and give them that as a start list. Then they can go from there.
Good luck - but get used to setting deadlines =)
2006-12-01 09:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be plain and straight. Give them a dead line. If they don't get you the list by X date then they can't invite anyone. This isn't rude it's practical. Offer to help them organize and look up addresses. It might be best to talk to your fiancee instead of his mother, since mothers of the groom can be a little touchy when they're about to lose their "baby boys". Best of luck and Congrats, wish you two the best!
2006-12-01 08:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by auequine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋