We were in a relationship for 10 months. He said he loved me about 2 months into the relationship, then he started acting funny, not calling. One time I didnt see him for almost 2 weeks. But I kept being nice, cooking, calling, helping him out in jams.He would confuse me by telling me he wanted to get married in the summer of '07. He took me to meet his family in another city. He told me his friends loved me, and he would tell me how smart/pretty i was and what a bright future I had. Then in Oct I had a traumatic experience ( was assaulted) and he turned cold on me..he wasnt there for me and actually insulted me and said i brought it on myself. I stopped answering his calls, and then he started calling 10 times a day to apologize. A week later I gave him a chance to make amends..I called him when i was feeling down and he told me to just "get over it". I stopped calling him for good after that, and havent heard from him since. I suppose your going to tell me he never loved me right?
2006-12-01 08:47:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Foremost, it is most unfortunate to hear that you were assaulted, I hope you are getting or have gotten good support to deal with the ordeal.That word "LOVE" is subjective. I do know that a healthy strong relationship can be what one would call "interdependent". Where both are sure of themselves and don't need to cling to someone else because of some past issues or other inner conflict they may be dealing with. Otherwise, I get this feeling you are still dealing with getting over this person or maybe you are trying to deal with yourself. For me personally , I would be open to professional support. I've come a long ways when I opted to recieve such support. The MAIN thing here is NOT your EX, YOU needs to YOU to be strong and ready for much life ahead. Think about it, really I hope all will be well with you . Take care. = )
2006-12-01 09:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by chaseki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm not sure what his feelings for you are. I am assuming that you were attacked and assaulted in some sexual way. This by no mean is your fault
2006-12-01 09:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man can't support you in time of need he is not worth the effort. I think if he truly meant the thing he said he would have been their for you.
Some men go threw the motions of complementing you, look for real compliments the ones that come from the heart.
example:
not from the heart: You look so pretty today.
From the heart: The way you smiled just a second ago, do that more often it really makes your eyes sparkle.
2006-12-01 09:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by James J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he didn't.
It's possible that he was scared by your being assaulted and just never knew how to come back from that shock. Even though it happened to you, he probably felt less of a man because he wasn't to defend you, and thought that you would eventually blame him.
I'm not defending his actions though. He obviously wasn't after a long time commitment.
You're better off without him!
2006-12-01 08:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what his problem is.. he seems like he's a nice guy but he has a strong opinion and if he says u brought it on urself, he just really said the wrong thing at the wrong time..he needs to understand there r times u dont say sh*t liek that. i think he probably wants to liek u but he just doesnt know how to be a good boyfriend...idk. but yea.. there is no way in hell he ever loved you, and if he did than his idea of love is very abnormal
2006-12-01 08:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't what happened is if you got raped that is why he turned cold. HE should have been there for you and remember to love you like he said. But when something like this happens to a guys woman most of the time as soon as they can they dropp them and tell them it's their fault. He is a typical, selfish, stupid dumbass. SO don't worry and get on with your life and forget about the jerk. One day it will come to him what he had and lost it for been stupid.
2006-12-01 08:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that he never loved you, it just seems that he was confused. I think you did the right thing by stopping all communications with him. Doesn't seem like he really appreciated what you did for him! You shouldn't worry too much about him, you will find a guy who will support you and appreciate you the way you deserve!
2006-12-01 08:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by freddie4ever143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww man.. This just makes me miss my girlfriend.. =( I can't say if he loved you or not.. But I agree that it was good you stopped talking to him 'coz instead of stopping or turning on you he should still be there for you..
2006-12-01 09:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, why why why WHY cook and clean and play little mommie to some guy who could give 2 craps about you? Get some self esteem.
2006-12-01 08:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋