i more or less live with my son and daughter-in-law and 2 grandchildren,which they love it, but her friend thinks since i am here i will just keep her child when needed. i do not want too. i have told them so. the girl thinks money is the issue,and she left $10 in a bag for me the second time she left her child. wow. but the child really gets on my nerves,i love it, but do not want to watch it. should i just leave and go somewhere else the night before or what. see, i have not told her i would watch her child, but just that one time, but i think she believes i will watch her tommorrow.she got a saturday job for extra cash. i feel bad for her, but i do not want to watch her child. even though i am not working anywhere else. she told me she would give me some cig. money. wow.
2006-12-01 08:46:00 · 13 answers · asked by granny 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
well this the day, she went to the sat. job. my daughter-in-laws uncle is the one who hired her. so, he and my daughter-in-law had an agreement to share one night a week babysitting each others children. so he stays the night with us, his children are here,plus the grandchildren and she still brings her child over, and leaves her here with the both of us, mind you now he is her boss that hired her for the second job, and they said that he is the babysitter now. since they have 1 night apeice sharing babysitting. i just don't see where she comes in the picture at. i am not the babysitter nor he said he wasn't either. so the girl is out there working on a job in his buisness and making the money and he has her child. something is wrong with that.
2006-12-02 07:29:56 · update #1
How horrible for someone to take advantage of you like that!
You may have to tell her that it is just too much for you, and that she needs to find a real babysitter. Make up something if you have to, although honesty is the best policy. What does your daughter-in-law say? Does she condone her friend's behavior? She should be helping you by not invitign the friend to bring her child over.
2006-12-01 08:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by amyo4190 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you've made plans for that day. And in future if she wants you to watch the child, to give you a few days notice (but you'll convienently have plans then too :P).
If you don't have anywhere to go, say you have a terrible headache.
It's not your responsibility, and if you don't want to watch someone else's child, you shouldn't have to.
2006-12-01 08:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by evil_nykki 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait till the last minute to not be available, pick up the phone and call her now and tell her you are busy. Or just tell her you don't want to. You don't have to find somewhere to go, i would call her on the phone and settle this now, make up an excuse if you want to.
2006-12-01 08:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by noone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and say ...I'm not a sitting service!! I don't want cig money...You NEED to stand up for yourself..OR you'll be watching the kid forever!!!
2006-12-01 10:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground. Say no. There is no need to explain further, you have no obligations to her children who are not related to you. Who cares if she thinks badly about you?? She can't even discipline her child so her opinion means nothing anyway.
2006-12-01 10:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by CandyCain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can't take advantage of you unless you let them. If you don't want to or can't handle keeping the child "just say no" or arrange to not be @ home.
2006-12-01 08:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by wanda3s48 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do some shopping tomorow or see a movie. Don't be there when she shows up. You told her no already, it isnt your fault if she doesnt listen. People can only use you if you let them.
2006-12-01 08:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for your boundaries and advise that you do not want to babysit for her...
Do so in a nice way and she should get it...
If she does not, it is not your issue, it's hers and you have a right to say no.
Period!
2006-12-01 08:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get out of the house, so you don't get in the position, if she persists you may have to be blunt and tell her you don't want to babysit her child.
2006-12-01 08:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by Sally E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her firmly that you don't want to watch her kid and that you refuse and you like her but have enough to handle w/ your grandkids!!
2006-12-01 10:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by HOTTIE 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋