I'm not sure if she's really my step-daughter, her mother says my husband is her father, but yet in 15yrs(girls age) she's not let her. My husband says he's hers, but another man has raised her and paid child support on her and she has his last name: I don't hate the girl, I accutaly would like her to know my children(her sibling). But I'm just not sure if she's my husbands child. I don't want to be mean to her and tell her no she can't, but I don't want to be hurt or my children to be hurt or the young lady either.I just don't know, she was suposse to come to our house this wkend, but the mother said she was gone with her grandmother, I just don't know what to do. Help please!
2006-12-01 08:41:01 · 4 answers · asked by kayren s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also, at first my husband said he didn't want anything to do w/her, then when he's drunk he says he wants something to do with her. I wouldn't mind her being in our life, but there's so much, bull that goes around. Like for instances she was suposse to come up this wkend, but then the mother calls and says no she can't, I dont want to be put in the middle where one day they say yes and one day they say no and one day she's his and one day she's not. I'm just tired of the way they both(husband & the mother) act. I'm trying to deal with this, but they both act worse than the children.
2006-12-02 00:10:08 · update #1
i don't understand the question?
if your husband says she is his, what is the issue?
2006-12-01 08:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by mama dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell you a situation. i have a five year old daughter who belongs to another man. i just found the guy and he is married with three kids. i want him to be involved in her life. but i know his wife will have a prob with it. coming from my point of view i would ask for a dna test. just for peace of mind. i dont think the woman would mind if she is 100% sure the girl is your husbands.coming from the other womans side i know i would not mind nor be offended cause i know the truth. and if she is your husbands embrace her and make her feel welcome in your home. good luck
2006-12-01 16:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by manuelgbm3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just accept her as family and stop worrying about all the other crap. She is 15, she needs someone in her life that will love her and respect her, poor kid probably does not know who she is, if everyone around her is telling her she is not my child. Just take her in and welcome her to her new family. Good luck.
2006-12-01 16:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes, what would you want someone to do if it were you and you were only 15. Just do with her what you'd want to happen to you. This is the best I can think of.
2006-12-01 17:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋