There is this guy that I met just this year. We have only known each other about 3 months. After about the first 3 weeks he told me that he liked me, and I wasn't really sure about him. He i cute and nice, but we went out on a date and i def. felt like i was just with a good friend. So I now know that I don't like him anymore than a friend and I don't want him thinking that I do. I have tried not to talk to him as much as we were before and I have stopped flirting with him, but I still don't know if he is getting the hints. Is there a way to do this, without just coming right out and saying "I don't like you."?
2006-12-01 08:32:19 · 30 answers · asked by smuggie71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it seems like he may not be getting the hints so as of now you really have no other choice but to just let him know how you feel. That is good that you are not flirting with him any longer. You are trying to be fare to him and not leading him on. Try and find the best way you know how and just let him know. Hopefully it will all just turn out for the best.
You take care :-)
Thank You.
2006-12-01 08:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandra Solano 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting gave the wrong signals and whatever else he may have picked up on your dates.
It would be wise to keep the guy's company on a leash. I suggest you get some time filler for the times you spend with him especially after whatever it is that you do in normal hours.
Or bite the bullet and let him know that you would rather be a Platonic friend. In situations like this it is what we do not say that gives the wrong ideas.
Be forthright and save both of you the misery of hostility.
2006-12-01 08:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by jackson m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a conversation with him about pretty much anything and find the perfect moment to pull an "I really appreciate you" kinda thing and say with huge emphasis " I"m so glad that we're friends."
That pretty much works most of the time and there's really no hurting of feelings involved.
2006-12-01 08:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Juniper84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there girlie. My advice to you is to simply tell him "hey we are only going to be friends". If he agrees and acts accordingly than great! However, there are some cases when people are simply unable to be just "friends" due to one never being able to "rid" themselves of those extra feelings. When this happens you simply must part ways. Otherwise there will be drama when you start dating someone else.
2006-12-01 08:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him " since i met you, I thought you were a great person. As the months went on, I think my feelings for you have changed. I really hope you understand." If he doesnt, and gets mad, i dont think you'll have him as a friend unless he gets over it
2006-12-01 08:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by lalala 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel in a tactful way. Just tell him that you think he's a great guy but you only have feelings for him as a friend. He can't get upset with your honesty.
2006-12-01 08:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me... But i told him how i was feeling! and you should to. you might be leading him on. the first couple of days was a little weird... but now we are really close friends again with all that behind us.
2006-12-01 08:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by blites-of you 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you tell him straight he'll pretend in his own mind that there's a chance of 'getting it on'. Tell him nicely and honestly that it's not going to happen. It's the best way.
2006-12-01 08:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and say it be blunt us guys me included are thick headed on alot of things
2006-12-01 08:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is tell him you just want to be friends.
2006-12-01 08:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋