I'd like to have kids someday. Should I ask a first date if they'd want to have kids someday or not? It could be a potential deal-breaker if they don't, but I don't want to freak them out if I ask.
2006-12-01 08:26:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 40, and absolutely do not every want kids. It has been a deal breaker many times. I could not find women that did not want kids, or did not already have kids.
Many women thought they would change me. Clearly such is not possible because I had a vasectomy almost 20 years ago.
I finally gave up, and posted an ad on a dating site. I said right in my ad. I don’t want kids. I get messages form women without kids. It was that simple.
I think you should bring it up, on the first date or before. I don’t think it will scare all the men away. Well, it would scare me because I don’t want them.
Good luck
2006-12-01 09:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hon, if you got the right person....whatever you ask should be ok with that person too.
I've been with my guy for over 5 years now, and the first real date we had, lasted almost until morning. And we talked about everything under the moon that night, kids, houses, dogs, cats, parents, cousins and other relatives. If this one is THE ONE, nothing will scare him or her away. And if you don't ask, you won't know. Just go for it. And don't be afraid to talk about anything. If that person is into you, nothing will matter except you are together, having a good night.
2006-12-01 08:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, You don't want to scare a guy off talking about kids on the first date, Only if you really care about them and are heading toward a relationship, because a guy might say he doesn't want kids, but once they fall for you that could change...
2006-12-01 08:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by 21&lovinit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. You have a right to know what you're getting yourself into. Don't make the question just come out of nowhere though. Just ask about their family. Ask them if they have any children. If they say no...then it's ok to ask if they've ever want children.
2006-12-01 08:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by GO SOONERS!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 00:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by schiavone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them and yourself a chance to get to know each other dont think you need to ask that on a first date
2006-12-01 08:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by bodecia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just casually throw it in as long as you don't go on and on it should be ok.
2006-12-01 08:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋