Ok, I am tha guy from a few months ago..who couldnt get over that girl...I would post the same questoin ever day. Now granted, I have matured since then, and realize hwo immatue that was. But the truth is, I'm not over that girl yet, and I dont think I ever will be. I really , truely do love her. Me and her now, are like really good friends, and I so desperatly want something to happen. And every time I'm around her, my feelings grow stronger. I love her...what should i do?"??
2006-12-01 08:04:04 · 37 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why torture yourself. If she has no romantic feelings for you, she probably never will. Let go of her. You will never move on if you continue to be her "good" friend. A part of you will probably always have an affection for her, but what you are doing is unhealthy for you.
2006-12-01 08:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like there's no chance of you two getting back together.
You should stay away from her. It's only been a few months, pal, your feelings aren't going to subside overnight. Seeing her as "really good friends" is only postponing the day you're really over her; and, you're not going to move on until that time. Why torture yourself like this? Why postpone the day you find someone who honestly appreciates you and returns your love?
Re. the "really good friends" thing. BS. She gets to dump you and then keep you around as a "really good friend". She doesn't have to pay the emotional price of breaking up with you and at the same time she gets to date other people. You’re avoiding making that break and all the while hoping that she will see the light and come back to you.
Stand the hell up; stop being her friend – she punched that ticket three months ago; get your self respect back; and, move on.
2006-12-01 08:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to Antarctica. And that wouldn't even help. Heck, I've been crazy about one guy since I was 14 and another since I was 18. You can be in love with this woman as long as you'd like--for eternity if necessary. That doesn't mean that you are going to have her for your own. If you truly love someone and if you realize that you may not be the right person for them, you learn to let them go and live their life the way that is best for them. Be strong and be a friend. Perhaps you'll get lucky one day and she will wake up and realize you are the right person for her. It's not likely, but perhaps.
2006-12-01 08:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by kerber22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you don't really mature in a few months.
Second - you will never get over her if you spend time w/ her. Stay away from her and let yourself heal properly. Find some guy friends - go out and have fun w/o any girls in the way. Concentrate on your job more and find new hobbies. Eventually you'll get swept up in all the busy stuff that your heart will heal before you even know it!
2006-12-01 08:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Niko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that really helped me get over my ex was to stop being friends with him. We were together for 2 1/2 years, when he broke it off because he didn't love me like that anymore. But he wanted to be friends. I, ofcourse, still had feelings for him and would do anything just to be close to him. We tried the friendsthing for three months, but he started looking at other girls, and I don't blame him for that. But it was really difficult spending that much time with him when he didn't see me like I saw at him. Finally I decided we needen't a total break from eachother, and just after a few weeks, I suddenly got perspective on things, and moved on.
Now it's been two years, and we still speak to eachother from time to time.
So please, do yourself a favour and stop being friends with her. After some time, if it's ment to be, you'll find back to eachother. And meantime, you'll feel so much better!
2006-12-01 08:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by eira_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what advice I should give you because I'm in a similar situation. What I can say is that, have you asked yourself? Why do you like her? What makes you love her the way you do? But I think even though you have strong feelings for her, I think you should try to date other people. Maybe you think she is the one, but she is just probably an illusion of the love that you want.
2006-12-01 08:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by miss_aznpride520 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she does not want to be in a relationship with you then you need to cut her out of your life. For awhile at least. Until you are able to accept that she is not the one for you if you are not the one for her. You will miss her, and it will be hard but it is what is needed. You deserve to have happiness with someone that will have happiness with you. You will never be truly happy with her if her feelings are not reciprocated. Remaining in her presense is not healthy for you. I would suggest getting involved in other activites that does not include her. And it is okay to want someone that doesn't want you but you need to start to take the steps to get over her. Go to a counselor, do some volunteering, catch up on some reading, put your effort into your career development, hang out with other friends. . .go out and take the steps to meet someone else. . .But stop seeing her for awhile because the feelings will not go away if she does not leave your presence until you are over her. Good luck, you deserve better so start getting better.
2006-12-01 08:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should at least tell her how you feel, If you really have strong feelings, and you guys are great friends, She might just think you like her as a friend and in that type of way. tell her how you feel what can she do, than just say she'd like you to be her friend. That's still better than nothing. But she might have the same feelings so tell him...
XOXO
2006-12-01 08:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well same here.. you go on. tell her how ya feel. or take it as each day comes. do not be possessive or suffocating wanting to be with her a lot or she will be scared thinking you are suffocating and controlling her.. are ya? will ya? ask yourself this.. possessiveness is a disorder. In time if your meant to be it will grow to be be patient take time for now what it is and be your best behavior no crying or pleading or following her to friends or calling her up etc it is scary those things. it isn't healthy. If you love her tell her you know you really bring the best out in me and hug her and say that's why i love ya leave is short sweet and have her come to you they like compliments.Some grilz know they can manipulate you as you would eat hay for them so watch her as well.. keep your self in check. know who you are alone as a person and how well you can be alone and what you do. .ask your self if she had died how will you be string enuf to be you? what about you? who's you? what can you do for you? take care of yourself. then her next .. trust me on this ~*winks~*
2006-12-01 08:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K 1ST TING DOES SHE STILL LOVE U IF SO ARE U POSITIVE IF U ARE WHAT THE **** ARE U WAITNG FOR MAKE A MOVE BUT ASK HERE FIRST CUZ U KNW HOW WE GIRLS AND IF U DONT KNW IF SHE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR U JUST ASK HER OR MAYBE 1 OF HER CLOSE FRENS IF ITS A NO THEN THERES NO OTHER WAY JUS MOVE ON THE BEST WAY TO MOVE ON IS FINDING SUM 1 ELSE TRUST ME IT WORKS WHEN U FIND SUM 1 ELSE ITS LIKE U DONT LOVE DAT PRSON NO MORE. BUT U CAN ALWAYS MAKE HER LIKE U IF U FEEL FINE WITH THAT.
2006-12-01 08:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by pinkdraws_15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋