my mum has a heart condition and get seriously stressed n worked up over the littlest things. its affecting her heath and i've tried talking to her but no matter what i do or how i word it she stresses n thinks im attacking her. i think she seems to think the worlds against her. anyone got ne advice on how to her learn how to manage her stress????
2006-12-01 08:01:10 · 20 answers · asked by fsb650c 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Talk to another adult you trust.
2006-12-01 08:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All mother's get stressed out, and as your mum has a heart condition, you should be looking after her, I'm not saying you don't, but she could do with help around the house, shopping etc. If she has some other problems then she should go to see a doctor, to get all the stress and worries lifted a bit. They would then refer her to a stress therapist. I know what it's like looking after 4 kids, and having money problems, she is'nt alone, there are hundreds of mums in this situation. If you are concerned for her, sit and have a chat and see if she will see a doctor and take it from there. Good Luck
2006-12-01 08:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always be there for her, make her feel that you do care. and one way of doing this is to ask her about her day at work, but dont forget... dont argue, just listen. always have the time to listen, action speaks louder than words so if she starts to become irritated or upset try to calm her down by saying you love her and you are always ready to listen, let all the worries, tensions and stress to come out. Then afterwards give her a hug.
Encourage her to go out with friends, or even you yourself can be her best friend.
i dont think medications or anti-depression tablets or any stress tabs would always give positive results. Theres always other option other than pills.
Be sensitive enough, give her some attention and you will see the difference.
good luck and god bless!
2006-12-01 09:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by NOSREME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum obviously has problems and needs some sort of medical help. Try writing her a letter telling her how much you love her and are scared she is going to end up in an early grave with all her stressing. Write everything you want to say as it will be easier for her to read and think over rather than you just talking at her. Then see where it goes from there.
Good luck.
2006-12-01 08:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She could try relaxation exercises. Write her a letter telling her how much you love her and that you are really worried about her well being. Tell her you want her around for a long time and ask her to please try some relaxation techniques like deep breathing and imagining that she is on a beach on a lovely warm day and that she can feel the sun on her skin and it is melting away all of her worries. Or by a stream. whatever works. Help her with household chores and maybe try to get her to go for a walk with you most days. It will relax her and channel some of that energy into the walk.
Writing down her worries helps too. Because it gets them out of her head. Ask her what you can do to help her, rather than telling her about her problem. I get worked up when my husband tells me what he sees is wrong with me instead of just being kind to me. She may need some anti anxiety pills or you could see how she feels about Kalms (they are herbal) .
2006-12-01 08:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by JAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could help out around the house a little. It doesn't have to be anything major: try washing the dishes and\or putting away the dishes; buy her some colorful flowers for the table; buy her some lavender soaps & body lotion (lavender is supposed to be good for calming people); give her a soft neck massage; make her breakfast in bed on a saturday; make her a card telling her how much you love her (its obvious you do)...
Give her a good hug and tell her you love her.
You'd be surprised how much the "little things" can help.
I think you're a wonderful person for wanting to help. I hope things will go better for y'all soon. God Bless.
:-)
2006-12-01 08:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by pinduck85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mum is depressed. Phone the Dr. and ask for a home visit voicing your concerns. She may need professional help and if she does, it will be better to deal with it now rather than later. Well done you for trying but you cant do it on your own. Good luck hun and let us know what you decide to do.
2006-12-01 08:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by crazeeladee no more 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meds...ask her doctor to give her an anti-anxiety med. Tell him what she's experiencing.
Also yoga is a great stress reliever.
What she needs is to learn to put things into perspective and to realize what she can and cannot control in her life. Some things are simply out of our control and stressing over what will or will not happen is useless. It is what it is. It will be what it will be whether or not you continue to exist...why waste your time and energy worrying?
2006-12-01 08:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't stop ur mom stressing only she can do that for herself every one stresses out she needs to find ways to relax maybe she is worried about things maybe you can look at ways to help her out just running the hover round for her washing up taking her a cup of tea will make her feel a little better but she has to help her self she may even be depressed an needs to see a doctor
2006-12-01 08:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her some St John's Wort from the chemist.It is a herbal stress buster.
2006-12-01 08:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Big Bruv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cannot only she can make her life less stressed here's a scenario for you something bothers you and people keep asking questions about it and bugging you about it. how do you feel? your mum feels the same i know you are trying to help her but only she can do this if her situation gets worse talk to her doctor and ask for help this will be confidential and it may help in assessing her situation
2006-12-01 08:07:02 · answer #11 · answered by julie t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋