he is 2 yrs old and he is attached to me like glue! i have a daughter who is 6 and she never was like he is. dont get me wrong i love him dearly but at night i want to sleep in my bed with my husban!! he starts in his crib and sometime in the night, boom! here he is when i wake up.
2006-12-01 07:58:38 · 12 answers · asked by hotfemale247 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
1) Get him his own bed, not a crib. Put a matress on the floor. Have him pick the color of the room. Make sure there is enough light.
2) If he joins you in bed, carry him back to his bed. Rub his tummy, read him a book, do what it takes to get him back to his own bed. Eventually he will migrate and stay in his own bed.
2006-12-01 08:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's good he goes to sleep in his own room.
Plans:
1) He does need a proper little bed by now, I think. Lose the cot and get him a little bed.
2) Put the cot mattress on the floor in your room, on a rug. This can be his 'in-case' bed. This usually works better for older kids, but you might try letting him sleep on this mattress if he insists on being in your room at night. Soon he will figure out that his own bed is more comfortable. And he still gets to be near you this way, while you have your own bed to yourself.
3) Let him come into your bed for a quick cuddle, then put him back in his own bed. I found this worked very well. He gets the cuddle he wants, but he will soon understand that while a cuddle is fine, he must sleep in his own bed when he feels able to. When he climbs into bed with you, say to him clearly, "You can have a quick cuddle for two minutes, and then I will put you in your own bed, because that is where you sleep".
I hope these ideas help you. If you pick the quick-cuddle method, don't let him fall asleep in your bed with you, stay awake. And if he cries and carries on at night, just keep putting him back in his own bed. If you are consistent, it will work one day - might take a while though.
Last option, and a good idea, is a book called Good Night, Sleep Tight, by Kim West, which has detailed plans to solve precisely this, and most other, sleep issues with young children. Good luck.
2006-12-01 17:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is put him back in his bed. You have to do it every time he leaves his bed for yours. Consistantly. You will lose sleep for a few weeks. But the more you renforce the idea that he needs to be in his bed the less he will want to be inyours. Its not easy, tie bells to his jammies to wake you if you dont hear him come in. Calmly walk him back to his bed and tell him that this is where he needs to sleep. If necessary check the closet or under the bed for monsters ( no more than once a night). See if a night light or a stuffed animal will help with the comfort issue. Good luck!
2006-12-01 08:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids used to do that. I think most of them do. What I did was stay with them until they fell asleep to reading books or listening to music or chatting or singing softly. When they awoke at night....I would greet them nicely and tell them that 'they mustve needed to use the poddy and that's why they woke up" and "that it means to go to the bathroom then back to his/her own bed". It didnt stop it entirely, but it got less and less frequent over time. They will do it again around 5 yrs of age with bad dreams and I gave the same excuse...that the bad dreams were a sign to wake them up so they didnt wet their beds. hehe Hey, it worked.
Comfort them until they fall back to sleep in their own bed. Now, Im divorced and my youngest comes to my room occassionally to be near and falls asleep on my bed for 20 mins or so and I wake him and walk him back to his room. In the mornings (he's 10) he comes to snuggle ...I give him hug and kiss but send him back out. Unfortunately, the bedrooms are so far apart and perhaps if the rooms were closer your child's room may be that way...in these cases, just try to use your discretion. Peace.
2006-12-01 08:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son has slept with me since day one. We are fighting him now and he is six years old. We lived in a city and was scared for him in the other room because of the crime. They have told us to reward, give them a sleeping toy, and so many other things. The only way he started to sleep in his room was getting him a big boy room. We let him pick out his bedroom set and decorations and now its his own space. We also had to start with his bed in our room and get him used to sleeping by his self. He was doing good but was watching Thats so Raven on Disney and seen a scare crow and hasn't slept in there since. Hope there is some ideas to help.
2006-12-01 08:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put up a baby gate. If he can climb it, then put up 2 gates in his bedroom doorway so he can't get past. Or you can do like alot of mothers and keep putting him back till he quits comming to your bed. Either way he'll fuss. Ignore the crying and prepare for a week of sleepless nights.
2006-12-01 08:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem between my wife and I. My son is 4 but he opposite from yours. He is around my wife like Velcro. My poor wife has him on her leg like a leach. I try to get him away from him by distracting him away, but you can still see him being easily distracted but very low tension of what the activity is and straight back to Mom. He cries if he is not around her. But lie ppl says boys are mommy boys and girls are daddy girls. I have 2 daughters and one son and I know I was not like this when I was that young, if I can remember.
2006-12-01 08:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're no longer a foul be certain for letting her cry.. I had a matching problem with my daughter. i ended up slowly reintroducing her to her crib. the 1st day for the period of nap time i'd wait until eventually she exchange into particularly sleepy, rocked her until eventually she exchange into thoroughly asleep and positioned her down in the crib and in case you're able to sit down there along with her so if she wakes up she is accustomed on your there, and slowly positioned her in the mattress extra usually until eventually she has gotten used to the crib back. additionally, if my daughter would awaken as quickly as I layed her down and she or he cried, i does no longer p.c.. her up, so as that she wouldnt study that all and sundry she had to do is cry for me to p.c.. her up! It took us a pair of week to get each and every thing below administration
2016-10-04 14:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by sather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet If you put him back in his own bed, and tell him no no he might try agian and agian but evintually he will learn that he has to stay in his own bed. I think it might be a disapline manner. He wont die if you give him alittle disapline.
2006-12-01 08:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by bearcatz_07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consistancy is the key, it is hard but keep putting him back to bed...
maybe get a cool toddler bed and go from there, so he doesn't crash his pumpkin on the floor!
all kids are different...I have three and they all couldn't be any different from one another...
this stage will pass and you will have your personal space back soon!
2006-12-01 08:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋