ok so i went uot with this boy for a year, he started treating me badly and we broke up. he was my first love and i was crushed. He had a reely sweet friend and I didnt think anything of it. He started to liek me but i was sitll heart broken. i ended up getting with him and going back and forth for a while creating a lot of problems. eventually i let my first love go and have been with this other guys for a little over a year now. I try not to think about my first love but i do all the time and cant get him out of my head we are still in love but ignore it bc he now has a gf and we doint want tp cause anymore issues. im in love with 2 ppl at once. what do i do. i cant tell my b/f hed be heartborken.
2006-12-01 07:36:39 · 16 answers · asked by kangaroo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok so i said he treated me badly.. what happened was things were great for a while then (being in highschool) he got cocky and stuff. after we brok eup he learned n wanted me back but it was too late bc i was with my current bf. he has changed a lot and isnt a butthead anymore.
2006-12-01 07:41:17 · update #1
if your going to leave a rude comment dont leave one. i dont need it thanks
2006-12-01 07:43:35 · update #2
dont try and tell me how i feel. and dont accuse me for it. im looking for some guidance not accusations
2006-12-01 07:46:47 · update #3
i am happy for him and his gf and i told him that. he doesnt know half of what i feel. im not out to ruin their relationship.. incase thats what yuor thinking
2006-12-01 07:49:00 · update #4
Oh, dear.
That IS pretty tough.
I think though, that you are being a *bit* selfish?
Why was it ok for YOU to have a new boyfriend (and one of his friends at that!) so soon after you guys broke up, and now since HE finally moved on and got a new girlfriend, you have problems with it?
I think you might have liked knowing he didn't have anyone, while you were already in a new relationship.
So, I think you are NOT in love 2 peolple; I think you love your current boyfreind and LIKE the thought of your old one still being in love with YOU.
Let your old boyfriend go and wish him well with his new girl.
2006-12-01 07:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Being in love with two guys at the same time is much more common than you think. However, if it's true love, you would have no difficulty making a choice. So the fact that you say you love two guys at once, indicates to me that it's merely infatuation for both of them. There's a huge difference in "being in love", and "love". However, since your first boyfriend has found another girl, and your present boyfriend would be heartbroken if you told him you loved the first guy, don't you think you owe yourself and this guy you've been dating for over a year, a little consideration? You can't get the first guy out of your head because he's now unattainable. So what you're feeling is an obsession. Forget him. He's history! Concentrate on the one you're with. If he'd be heartbroken if you ditched him, then he must really care for you. Wake up and smell the coffee!
2006-12-01 15:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A first love is hard to get over but you'll have to except it. Both of you have moved on. Since you've fallen in love again you can't just break it off. Just because your love is still there for the other guy doesn't mean you two would work out. If you're happy with the guy you're with now, don't ruin it. Whatever happens, happens, just the way it's suppose to.
2006-12-01 15:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are in a state of confusion.................. It would be a really smart choice too set a side any relationship at this time. You need time to think about what "YOU" really want. It would be devastating to you if you get hurt again. As far as your first love, you will "ALWAYS" remember your first love. That's the one that really hurts. I am probably as old as your mother. Just think this.............. I always remember my first love and all the crazy things we did and the crazy things I did for that love. Sometimes I just laugh and sometimes I pout. Sometimes I wonder where he is................ Sometimes I wonder what he turn out to be like. We were together all through tout high school and 2 years after. The relationship end with both of us just letting go. 2 years after that I met my wonderful husband and be married to him for 16 wonderful years. We are all human and all have feelings remember that. As far as having 2 people at the same time I would think that : "It is not a wise decision." Think very carefully of what "You" want and take charge of your life. I wish you lots of luck and joy in life.
2006-12-01 15:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him the truth. You don't wanna be in a relationship where you are keeping things. You have to be totally honest. I'm heartbroken too so it happens to everyone. I think God has a plan and whateva happens, happens. Just ride it all out and do what you think is right. I promise, it will get better. (It always does)
2006-12-01 15:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by littlenikki57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to break up w/ your current boyfriend and stay as far away from your ex and him as possible. Let yourself heal from both relationships and be single for a long time. You're young and you don't need to deal w/ this drama. Move on and see what else there is in life besides having a boyfriend! :)
2006-12-01 16:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Niko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think about what you'd want done to you if the roles were reversed. the best thing to do is usually the hardest thing to do, and the thing we really don't WANT to do. You've gotten yourself in a position where a lot of people can get hurt and you need to step up and do the right thing.
2006-12-01 15:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You grow up and be mature, either you're going to love only ONE of them or youlet them BOTH go, you can love two people at the same time, but you can't be IN love with two people at the same time, and if you are IN love with ur ex then you owe it to your current b/f to be honest and tell him, he'd be more heartbroken if you waited longer to tell him than if u did it now
2006-12-01 15:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kollege Gurl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think that once you love someone, you can’t get over them that fast. Especially your first love. Just give it time. You'll be ok. You have tried to move on, as has he. It'll be hard but you'll be ok Hun!
2006-12-01 15:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by Little Southern Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really in love with him or the idea of love? You have to face reality he couldn't have been soo lovely if you broke up and he treated you badly... You have issues and you need to sort them out ASAP
2006-12-01 15:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋