Help my partner is going out to the pub tonight with his mates. I am staying at home with our 10 mth baby we are both 24, he said he might stay out tonight but I have said I want him to come home no matter what time it is. Am i wrong I trust him 100% but he thinks I should be ok with him staying out we have lived together 4 years and he has never said out before. help
2006-12-01 07:27:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He'll be home, sometimes guys have to blow off steam, and goof around with the fellas, you'll be fine, as long as he' never cheated before, then your fine, now I don't agree with the drinking thing, but thats just me, if your fine with it, than try not to worry, more than likely he'll be home earlier than he expects
2006-12-01 07:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is one thing. Being naive is another. You two have a child. You're not the only one who helped make that baby and so therefore you shouldn't be the only one taking care of it. I know it's essential for both individuals to have a good time and space...but all nite is just not acceptable. A man will do whatever you LET him. It wouldn't be fair to you if he stayed out all nite and you're at home with a crying baby. Explain to him that he needs to be back at a reasonable time or just don't go out at all.
2006-12-01 15:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must regretfully inform you that is the result of playing house. Men make commitments. Women and men view life differently. We are simply wired that way. Can or will he be faithful? All things are possible, however, you knew that he was like this before. Why try to change him? At 24, he is not ready to show you the commitment, it probably won't happen ever when he is 44. Why would it? You allow it by settling for less than you deserve.
I would advise you to lay your cards on the table as to what it is that you really want out of this relationship. I wish you well.
WOO
2006-12-01 15:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would he let YOU do the same? I'd say, "Okay, go ahead, but next time, you stay home while I go out with MY friends all night". If he doesn't agree, you two clearly have a problem! But I don't think you should jump to conclusions just yet. 4 years is a pretty good track record. Just make sure it's 50/50!
2006-12-01 15:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him do this or a regular basis, but don't keep him home every night. Tell him he can go if he stays home and takes care of the baby while you go out with your friends another night.
2006-12-01 15:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by hobbes84k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he'll have big surprise waiting on him when he gets home. Staying out all night w/o coming in at all in inappropriate. He should come in assoon as he and the boys are done at the pub.
2006-12-01 15:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Leadoff7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he need to stay out all night long???? What in God's name would he be doing that would require him to be out ALL NIGHT LONG??? You are a flipping idiot if you trust him 100% after this honey!! A man would only need to be out all night after hanging with his mates for one thing and that's to get it on with someone else. His ass should be at home taking care of you and his new baby! Shame on his selfish ass!!
2006-12-01 15:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should trust him but when he gets home you should tell him how you feel and maybe one day you can go out and hang with your friends and he can watch the baby. You trusted him so he will probably trust you. Just talk to him.
2006-12-01 15:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who have a wife and baby at home shouldn't be out boozing with their pals until the wee hours of the morning. Baby...tell your husband to grow the hell up. With a family comes responsibility.
Nice to know you Brits have your share of moronic husbands too.
2006-12-01 15:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't the pubs close at 11?
2006-12-01 15:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋