My brother says God will punish me for having a baby without being married . He's a religious person, and his church says people should be married before thgey have sex . Does the Buddhist religion say it's all right to have a baby without being married ?
2006-12-01 07:21:31 · 15 answers · asked by Prissy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Buddhism has a precept of "right sexual conduct" or "right relationships". This means that you do what is right, what is moderate, what does the least harm to others. Buddhism does not have strict codes about marriage per se.
2006-12-01 07:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Buddhism has nothing to say about this directly. Rather Buddhists promote responsible sexuality. There is nothing in Buddhism about God punishing you. You may or may not have a harder time raising the child because you are not married, and while some may say that is due to karma, Buddhism does not promot a punishing religion.
Consider instead whether it was more helpful to have a child without being married or whether it is more harmful. In what ways is it benefiting or harming you to do so without having a commitment from the father, and in what ways could there be some negative effects. The answer above also raises a highly interesting point.
In general, it's probably best for you to make this decision without trying to determine if you're evoking the wrath of God and rather consider the well-being of your yourself, your child, its father, and your entire families.
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2006-12-01 07:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you will consider Buddhism as your religion on the hope that Buddhism will say that its alright to have a baby without marriage , then you are wrong .
Buddhism or not Buddhism , having sex before marriage is a question of responsibility . A question of morality .
Be it a religion or not , be it christianity , islam , buddhism , sex before marriage is not encouraged . However , in Buddhism , The Buddha did not say that God will punish you for your bad deed .
If you think your act is acceptable in the sense of morality and you are ready to perform your responsibility as a parent , then its all up to you .
Finally , Buddhism does not say its all right to have a baby without being married but it does not condemn those community who are in this circle .
2006-12-02 17:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by YoBro'' 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Short answer:
Sex out of wedlock is not forbidden or condoned in Buddhism. But there are always words of wisdom to listen to.
If you and your partner decide that you are capable of handling the child and wish to have one, but do not wish to get married first, for what ever reason, then that is your choice. Buddhism does not have a rule against unmarried sexual activity or unwed parenting. Just against improper, harmful, sexual activities.
Details:
The precept concerning sexual conduct states: "I undertake the precept to refrain from sexual misconduct." Sexual misconduct is any sexual conduct or activity that results in suffering. Your suffering, your partners suffering or the suffering of others involved, in this case, the child. For instance...
If you and/or your partner are particularly young and unready for the emotional or financial responsibility or are not ready to dedicate your time and efforts to your child, then you should NOT be engaging in sexual activities because the outcome could result in you and your child becoming a burden to others.
Just remember, think of others first. Not just those you like or the once that could obviously be affected, but ALL beings that could be affects, even those with who you do not get along.
Things to consider:
What if you and your partner have a falling out? What burden will be placed on you and your child? What about on your partner? Are you ready to raise the child alone? Would you need to get assistance from your parents to help raise the child? What about from the state? Will you need help from a family services organization? If so, will this cause you suffering? What about the child? What about your partner? These are the things that need to be considered.
If in the end, you believe that no one is being harmed and that you are doing the moral and right thing, then so long as you are not hurting anyone, Buddhism has no say in the situation.
I hope this helps.
2006-12-04 07:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by mehereintheeast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The God of the Bible is Love, Buddhism is open for interpretation, but why should you want to know what Buddhism teaches, look at what the Bible teaches. Christ did not come to condemn the world but to save it. He wants whats best for you, he made you he knows that sex outside of marriage is harmful, to you to your partner and to your baby. God meant sex to bring a married couple closer. so get married. My God is a God of second chance, its a good thing cause I need those second chances as much as anyone. Oh and by the way all sins are equal in my God's eye's, and we all are sinners, but He is mercy full and will forgive you. Your brother loves you and wants the best for you he just doesn't know how to confront you. But back to the question Buddhism doesn't care. Caring is not one of Buddha's supposed characteristics. So if you just want to find someone to tell you its OK to do what feels good Buddhism might be it, but if you want a fulfilling and truly joyful life, you need a relationship with the One True God.
2006-12-01 08:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Buddhism doesn't say what is good or bad. Only attempts to describe it's theory of the human condition. Buddhism recognizes that good and evil depend on perspective and attachment to notions of good and evil are distractions from the truth.
The buddhist would call someone who makes a good or evil judgement on such an event a fool.
There is a buddhist parable that says A man's horse ran away, his neighbor said "that is bad" the man said "I don't know good from bad". Then the horse came back, the man's neighbor said "That is good", the man said "I don't know good from bad". Then his son rode the horse and fell off and broke his arm, the neighbor said "That is bad" the man said "I don't know good from bad", then the army came in and drafted all the young men but the man's son was spared because of his broken arm, the neighbor said "that is good", and the man was saddened by his neighbor's ignorance and the futility of his neighbor's desire to put values and labels on events.
2006-12-01 07:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think Buddhism cares. It's too open minded. Anyone who would condemn you for having a baby without being married is a bigger sinner than you.
2006-12-01 07:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Conscious-X 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the precepts of the Buddha is not to abuse sex. The Buddha does not condemn a woman who has a child out of wedlock. The Buddha taught that the Karma of your action would visit you in the future. Be responsible for your actions. Is having a child out of wedlock responsible. Are you ready to bear the burden of the consquences of your actions.
2006-12-01 07:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i myself am a Buddhist and i can assure you that it is OK to have the child,he/she does not have any fault in how he/she is conceived or raised.there are Manny things in the world that you cannot change,only be mind full of and be careful of...one is love and relationships....the way of Buddhism is to adapt and be good to everything(no matter how big or how small) we are all connected(all life)...it does not matter what happened before,it only matters what you do now.......raise the child to be Good and you will be a great mom,and he/she will be a great child.....
2006-12-01 07:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buddhism is not a religion-it is a philosophy, a way of life. It takes time to study how to go about this life-and it will even mix in with whatever religion you might follow.
2006-12-01 07:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Shossi 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋