I'm in high school, do you think that it is arrogant to just go up to a group of people out of the blue and ask if you can sit with them at lunch or something like that. I know them all and they all like me and I like all them and I've known them for years even though we're not really close friends but I don't know if that's like inviting myself and it's arrogant and I should just forget it.
2006-12-01 07:21:25 · 26 answers · asked by leena 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sometimes I worry they don't like me, i'm paranoid about it
2006-12-01 07:21:56 · update #1
That's not arrogant, you're asking them which is polite. Arrogant would be telling them to shove over to make room for you as if you're the leader or something.
2006-12-01 07:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My favorite saying is "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the World walks out". Real friends are wonderful to have and you may only have a handful in your lifetime. The rest are just acquaintances. I have friends that I've known for 30-40 years and it doesn't matter that we don't live close anymore but every time we talk it's like we saw each other last week. Go ahead and keep asking to sit with them. You may think they don't like you but then maybe they don't know you. So, if you keep sitting with them they will get to know you better and you may have alot in common. High school is stuff though and kids can be pretty critical. But once you get out and into life you will make more and more friends. Just remember to treat people the way you want to be treated. AND, always make your own judgement about a person. You don't have to dislike or like a person just because someone else has their own opinion. Keep your head up and Good luck!
2006-12-01 07:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by texasblueslady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not arrogant at all! It's wonderful that you have the self-confidence to go up to a group you don't normally sit with and ask if you can join them. As a matter of fact, it's quite mature. What would be arrogant and immature is for them to refuse.
2006-12-01 08:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't arrogant. Since you're in high school I have a feeling that you would really KNOW if they didn't like you!! There is nothing wrong with moving from table to table or joining a new table. I say go for it and be proud of yourself for having the guts to do so!
2006-12-01 08:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High school is over just as soon as it begins and everyone you work so hard to know and get to like you, honestly after you Graduate your forget all but maybe 10 thats pushing. With that in mind, Go For it! If they don't want to sit with you thier loss not yours. Ok
Remember this in life On the other side of FEAR is always Success so go be sucessful ok.
College Graduate.
2006-12-01 07:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being arrogant, you are being very polite by asking.
If you are worried about being welcome, look them in the eyes when you ask the question. If someone smiles or asks you to sit down, make sure that you sit next to them. They are the ones that are REALLY welcoming you to the table. Stay away from the quiet ones. They either have an attitude or they won't be much fun to sit next to anyway.
Best of luck to you everyday!
2006-12-01 07:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The high school mentality is the most pretentious and contemptuous frame of mind there is. Some one in the group will probably say something some where along the line, but you are showing tensity and strength and depth of character just in attempting to cross that boundary. I would say go for it. If it turns nasty at least you know who your friends are or are not.
2006-12-01 07:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not arrogant! I think it's great you are willing to reach out of your comfort zone and sit with people you want to know better. And who knows, maybe one of them wants to be your friend and is too shy to approach you, or someone might really need you as a friend too! Good luck with it. I wish I was this brave in high school!
2006-12-01 07:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by East of Eden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course it wouldn't be arrogant. it would actually show this group that you like and respect them because you want to spend time with them.
being arrogant would be going up to one of these people at a table and ordering them to move so you could sit in their seat.
2006-12-01 07:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by sharon17 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arrogant is certainly NOT the word to use here. Practicing manners is more like it. Nothing wrong at all with asking anyone anything.
2006-12-01 08:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋