Qu for the Ladies ONLY Please?

Question

You walk into a party/bar/event/wedding etc and some guy there takes you eye. From friends what attracts them is how the guy carries himself, how he poses himself....ladies please explain if:

A) This is true
B) what is this 'carrying himself' -only answer if you CAN actually explain fully for the benefit of all
C) Is this self-confidence and if so, how can you see it?

Hope this helps all. Thank you x

To clarify: When a guy catches you eye, what is it about him and why does he catch your eye? From talking with friends about this, the general opinion is that its the way the GUY carries himself, the question is what does this actually mean. Very few of us believe its about looks, we seem to feel its about self-confidence and it if it, what is this self-confidence, how can a female see it or rather what is it that a female happens to see? Hope this helps those that had trouble with the question. x

Answer 1

What catches my eye? ....hmmmm
Definitely nothing popularly defined as self-confidence- how much he chats to other ppl, how much he laughs etc doesn't do a thing for me I'm afraid. Posing doesn't come into it either.

What catches my eye is his muscle tone and how he moves. If he moves easily and with an economy of movement, if he looks like he could run down a mammoth (or make love all night long), I'm interested. It is the sort of fitness that would come from swimming or yoga, not working with weights or football.

It is all to do with feeling comfortable in your own skin, knowing you've got a good body and know how to look after it. These I mention because they are do-able, you can improve on them.

I also look for awareness of what is going on around them, the ability to inconspicuously monitor social interactions and avoid nasty surprises. People-watching, in short. This does mean that they are less likely to be the centre of attention, but that's how I like it.

Answer 2

This "carries himself" is an expression that encompasses alot and is used for lack of better words.

Do you have a minute? Because this answer will go into the final 10 seconds I have left LOL.

If we are talking about first look attraction, it is physical based on visual and that attraction DOESN'T have anything to do with self-confidence. You just can't SEE funny or nice etc...and I think the concept that you can SEE self-confidence is a joke. Some people think that if you have good posture, clean cut, smiling, conversational, polite, eye contact, have manners, witty and charm you are self-confident or you "carry yourself" well. I know people who do not act like that and have achieved things that only one with real self confidence can achieve!

Humans are pattern seeking by nature. This is the way they have survived by observing moon, star, rain, animal behavior patterns etc...
If one observes certain favorable behavior in a person, we take the visual traits of that individual and begin to associate the trait with the behavior therefore seeing a pattern. For example, if you have been around a few girls that dress conservatively and have enjoyed their humor, habits, company, morals, the next time you see a girl dressed modestly, it will attract you immediately (like conditioning) although the girl may be a bimbo LOL.

WE respond "it's the way they carry themselves" when in actuality it's NOT the man or woman as so much as the way YOU get carried away by him/her based on prior pleasant experiences and association that are triggered by the visual stimuli they present...remember, it's all in YOUR mind ;)

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Answer 3

Everyone has certain qualities they find attractive in a person, as to how they present themselves to the world. So yes, how a guy carries himself is what attracts the ladies. But the thing is every guy carries himself differently and every lady is attracted to a different style. Maybe a guy is very outgoing and flashy, but the lady he is try to impress doesn't like outgoing and flashy...she's more impressed by the guy who is shy and is shrinking into the corner because she finds him mysterious and attractive in that way. Just be yourself or at least the you that you want to be and you will find the girl that likes that.

Answer 4

Well, let's see. I would definitely have to say that it is most definitely how the guy presents himself. What I mean by this is that when you see a guy, a woman looks to see if he knows how to dress, if he stands with pride, if he approaches the woman like he actually knows what he wants. I mean, come on guys, you know what "carries yourself" means. A woman wants a man that will be a man and be there for them and support them but will also give them the respect to do what they feel needs to be done. You all know what I am saying. But, like always, this is only my opinion........

Answer 5

there is some truth in this. You can be good looking and have nice clothes but if you have poor posture and look shifty, you will not look attractive. Walking tall, carrying yourself easily as though you are confident in your own skin, really helps add to a man's attractiveness. But this does not mean being arrogant or cocky; plus you still have to be nice and friendly and pleasant and have lots of things to talk about.

Answer 6

1. Not always, he may be an overconfident jerk.
2. When someone "carries themself" they think hightly of themselves-namely they have a lot of self-confidence. This means they aren't insecure.
3. Yes because if they don't have self-confidence, they would be hiding in the background and not expressing themselves.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

At events like the above, guys are usually "carrying themselves" in a particular/ peculiar way for 2 reasons: 1) they`re pissed 2) their shoes are too small for them. It`s got nothing to do with confidence.

Answer 8

I like to wear a elaborate Jar Jar Binks costume and mask as part of my every day life. I went to the grocery store, and saw how depressed everyone was so I thought I would help. I started dancing in the aisles, and yelling at people, and running up to people and taking things out of their cart. It was great fun. Then when I went to check out, there was only one lane open and a long line. I screamed and screamed while in line and danced, bumping into other people. I opened a box of baking soda and threw it around. Finally I got to the checkout. I started making noises at the cashier, and I kept pressing buttons on the computer. Some people in line were groaning because the line was getting very long, but that gave me even more incentive to make them laugh. I climbed onto the table and started kicking peoples groceries on the floor and singing. The manager and one of his goons pulled me off and said I could never shop there again. Can I sue for harrasement or possibly assualt?

Answer 9

Everyone has their own idea of attractive. To me its personae and sense of humor, sometimes looks can take my breath till he opens his mouth and I realize he's a jerk, instant turn off. If they are friendly approachable looking it is more comfortable to go talk to him and if he makes me laugh in the first 10 minuets then he's got my attention.

Answer 10

It's all about his social appearance and how presentable he is. physical attraction isn't everything, but first impressions are things you will always remember.