in the past and caused me to not trust him. he djs so he is at alot of parties. that is just a hobby for him not his sole employment. well he has put this dj stuff before our relationship. i told him he needs to leave it alone for a while until i can trust him again. cause when he is at these parties women are flirting and i have bad trust in him because of what he has done in the past. well he left last night cuz i want him to stop for a while. i dated him for 3 yrs. we were suppose to get married. well he walked out on me so he can do parties. well what do you think. plz no smart remarks. and remember it is not my own insecurities of why i dont trust him to be at these parties. he has lied in the past about some things.
2006-12-01 06:49:00 · 10 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he did you a favor. If you can't trust him now, you won't be able to trust him ever. Forget about him and find a real man, one you can adore AND trust. Good luck and good riddance to the loser.
2006-12-01 06:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've pretty much answered your own question. He walked out and chose DJing over you. It's obvious he likes the attention he gets from the women at these parties. Well, you asked for advice and no smart alec answers so here it is straight. Dump this guy. He will cheat on you over and over again. If he lied to you over flirting, he'll lie about everything. Get out and find a guy who will treat you the way you should be treated. You put up with his crap for a very long time, time to move on. Sorry, but sometimes the truth hurts.
2006-12-01 14:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most and formost, if Djing is his ultimate hobby...then it's something that you need to respect. The thing that throws me off is that he has lied to you before...? Well, if he seems like a jerk about things and does not care about the relationship at all, then it is time to call it quits. No relationship is better than an emotionally abusive relationship. Just have a serious talk with him.
2006-12-01 14:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dancing Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His "hobby" is always going to expose him to women. It looks as if he has made his choice. I would let him have it. He seems one of those guys who cannot look at the candy without grabbing a piece. If he won't quit the Dj jobs I think you may have to quit him And you know what? Even if he did quit - I think this guy may just have the blood of a cheater in his veins. Better to get out now, honey.
2006-12-01 14:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..I know what it's like to not trust your bf and I'm sure that it's hard seeing as how you two were seeing each other for 3 years, but if you love him and he really loves you he will be with you. It may take awhile for him and you just have to be willing to wait till he is ready or he may not be the one..Whatever happens you will find that perfect someone.It happens when you least expect it, and he may be that one..If you two really love each other you will be together..So dont worry just live your life and be happy..Love and marriage will come eventually! Hope this helps!!
2006-12-01 15:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by tifyxoxo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a liar always a liar... once a cheater always a cheater
even if they vow that they won't do it anymore, there is that tendency in them to do it. Past boyfriends who cheated me and became history to me, also cheated on their subsequent squeezes--whether it was physically with someone else, some fling on the internet or turning to porn. It is in their nature--like an addiction for the high or adventure... Wouldn't trust it. Would try to reinvolve myself in things I enjoy and try to meet new people. Eventually you may find the "one" or he may wise-up (wouldn't count on it though). Good luck!
2006-12-01 14:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by wannaknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m sorry love .... but he`s so immature that he`s not ready for mar rage, If you go ahead and get married then you`ll have a lot of heartache, He`s not ready to settle down, nor is he ready for a relationship.
2006-12-01 15:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt trust my man either!!!! but if you dont trust him you should not marry him. a relationship should be built on trust and honesty!!! if he lied before he would lie again!! good luck but from my side i would drop him because every girl deseves the best!!
2006-12-01 14:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl,i think u should go wit him wen hes djin at sum of dese parties instead of making him stop so yall can get bak 2gether .n so u can see if hes lyin 2 go bout wuteva
2006-12-01 14:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by kyrah aka babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dont you go to the parties with him? i think rhats the best thing you can do? if your with him then you know what hes doing.
2006-12-01 14:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by lizlatina69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋