If you've been seeing someone for six months but they say that they're not ready to commit yet because they don't feel like they know you, do you take that as in they're not that interested or they just need more time?
2006-12-01 06:38:11 · 17 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they aren't interested, they would tell you. People don't usually keep dating someone that they aren't interested in.
The answer is one of 2 things. 1) The person needs more time. 6 months is not that long. Some people need more time than that to make an educated decision about where the relationship is going. 2) The person likes you and wants to keep you around for sex or companionship until the 'right person' comes along.
I was in this predicament with the man that is now my husband. We dated for a year and a half until he was ready to make any type pf commitment to the relationship. He wanted to be sure that he made an educated decision. We have now been together for 4 years and we are still getting to know each other.
It takes a lot of time to REALLY get to know a person. A smart person knows that. And, if this is the case in your situation, you should be thankful that you are with someone who is willing to take the time.
On the other hand, if the person is only keeping you around for sex until the right thing comes along, you should get out now. However, the problem with that is: only time will tell if this is the answer or not.
2006-12-01 06:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just obsurb!! You've been with this guy for six months and he is going to tell you he doesn't feel like he knows you-that is bullshi#! I think that if you really care for this person and you believe that it may work out with you guys, then just give it some time. Otherwise I say get out. Six months is enough time to know someone, and if he is saying that now, why would you want to waste more of your time with him. Say you stay and a year goes by and he is still saying the same thing, it is a waste of your time.
2006-12-01 06:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by silvienicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every individual is different. You can't rush a person to commit if they are not ready. That doesn't mean that they are not interested. Give it time, it could be six more months.
2006-12-01 06:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax...if it is meant to be it will be realized over multiple YEARS. unless you are on some kind of time clock like mid 30s women, cut the guy some slack. run your life as if it was just you who had to make you happy and support yourself. you will be a person of more substance for whomever you end up sharing your life with. 6 months is nothing...it's a hockey season. Maybe YOU are not ready to commit if you are counting the months.
2006-12-01 06:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view, maybe you would just need to be more open, communicate and resolve problems with discussions instead of frustrations. Maybe that would change his mind, once he sees you're ready to commit, giving your best into it, and hopefully follow your example.
With men, sometimes you have to make subtle ways to the point. Show him, and just might bite for it ;)
Good luck
2006-12-01 06:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Random22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are different. ive been seeing this guy 4 about 8 months, but i dont think i know him all that well yet. so it depends on the people. just dont try and force anything on him n u'll be fine. but his actions will tell u the truth.
2006-12-01 06:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months is a good amount of time. I think it may mean they're not interested.
2006-12-01 06:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by tia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i like the dinner and picture concept. Cookies are sturdy additionally. make certain you have adequate candles lit. additionally unfold rose petals on the table around a effective bottle of wine or champagne. additionally in case you have any writing skills try writing him a poem then physique it for him. according to hazard something with regard to the 1st 2nd you spotted one yet another or your first date. i like writing poems and do it oftentimes for my guy. He looks the sentimental sort so words out of your heart could heat his.
2016-12-10 19:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, someone should most definantly know wether they want to commit by the 6month mark, or they should at least know that they dont. If i were in your posistion i would give him an ultimatum
("love me or leave me")
2006-12-01 06:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly this is my experience..I went through the same thing with my current guy..he wanted too get to know me better and take it slow..at first i thought that he had someone else..but he told me no..he like me but is not ready to committ so lets just date and get to know each other..i was hurt..but do i now regret taking it slow and getting to know him...ABSOULUTY not..you appreacaite each other when you take things slow...and when he is honest with his feelings about you...I say take it slow and just date..BUT make sure that it is ONLY you that he is into
2006-12-01 06:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋