My husband is in bootcamp and will be comming home for 2 weeks for Christmas. He wrote me and told me we may have some visitors comming back with him. I am not sure how I feel about having some strangers in my house for 2 weeks with my children. I understan those are his brothers but I am not sure if I would feel safe for myself and my children. Is this wrong that I feel weird for not opening my door to all of our soldiers?? Some one please help me out on this decision.
2006-12-01 06:35:15 · 18 answers · asked by bb77blueeyes 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Tis the season to share.... good will towards men.
Coach
2006-12-01 06:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Visitors you don't know for 2 weeks? That is a bit excessive, especially since he has been away, and the 2 of you need to reconnect.
Holidays are hectic enough without having people you don't know around. I think he is expecting too much from you, and you should tell him you are not comfortable with the idea of strangers coming and staying that long. This has nothing to do withh "opening your door to all our soldiers," would he be happy if you invited soldiers over while he was away?
2006-12-01 14:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from, I've been there before. But I'm sure your husband trusts whomever it is and wouldn't ever put your children in any type of danger. And from experience, the men that come home with your husband aren't looking to spend 2 more weeks with him, most of the time the guys that come home with friends either don't want to go home to their own families or they don't have family to go home to. They are looking for the family environment with someone familiar (your husband) and normally the first few days they will spend around your home and then they will go out and explore some, possibly to find a companion or to find something to keep themselves from getting bored. I, personally, would discuss it with your husband and let him know your concern.... if all else fails, try it. If it goes bad, don't allow it to happen again... and best of luck during the holidays :)
2006-12-02 04:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by colie t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I agee that 2 weeks is excessive, please don't listen to the woman that said that while attending basic training you are not a soldier. I am serving in the Air Force right now, and some of the very first and strongest bonds I made were with other people, from all classes and races in our great country that were going through that initial process with me in transforming from a civilian to the military life. The experience of "boot camp" is totally a shared one that is unique to each group that goes through it. Are there bad eggs...sure, but I have never met so many strangers from Alabama to Maine, from Puerto Rico to Guam that came together as brothers as when I went through BMT. I was fortunate that I didn't have to spend that holiday away from home as I have others, and in those times, I've always been welcomed in the home of another serviceperson I've served with.
That said, even if I were invited for 2 weeks, I'd know better than to wear out my welcome.
Good Luck, God bless your husband for his service and you and your children for your support. Merry Christmas
2006-12-01 14:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bownhead 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your hesitancy, but you must realize that in any business, a man or a woman may bring home visitors that you may not know. I think you can feel safe, just keep the liquor to a minimum, so you don't get in trouble if one of them drives drunk. It is the holidays though, so talk to him about how much you look forward to being alone with him and as a family, maybe if you put it like that you can get the visit reduced to a few days or a week. or put the mess of them up at a cheap motel you can afford to pay for. If he insists, and you want to keep your hubby you will just have to put up with it and get out of the house so they don't turn you into a maid and a cook. Tell him, next time, to ask first since this puts such a load of laundry and shopping on you.
Let me know how this turns out, I'm really interested
2006-12-01 14:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the majority here. It's one thing to bring a soldier home for Xmas dinner but a totally different story when you're talking 2 whole weeks. It is a burden for you, absolutely! As a fellow Army spouse and mom of 2 I can relate- you need your alone time with your hubby without someone else being there for 2 whole weeks.
There is nothing wrong with puting your foot down and saying no. It doesn't make you a bad person. It is your home after all and it has nothing to do with not being hospitable during the holidays or to a soldier. You have to think of yourself, your kids, your home and your sanity!
Good luck!
2006-12-01 14:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by bellagirlinchicago 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ben Franklin said "Fish and House guests stink after 3 days"
I think it is wonderful of your husband to ask some of his friends to share Christmas with your family but not for 2 weeks.
It is understandable that you are reluctant to let strange people stay in your home with your and your children.
How good a judge of character is your husband? How many people is he talking about? How big is your home?
It is going to be a huge strain on the family fininances to feed extra people for 2 weeks especially during the holidays
These are all answers which you and your husband must decide together.
Merry Christmas whatever you decide
2006-12-01 14:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to bring some guys by for the festivities i would say the more the merrier (jsut keep them from getting too hammered). But for 2 weeks? That's excessive. Family doesn't even stay that long. A good guest knows when it's time to leave, and I know from experience that freshies from bootcamp are going to be lonely and want to hang around a lot.
2006-12-01 14:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by ShavenLlama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would trust him to not let some wierdo into your home, and personally, I enjoy having my husbands friends over... they've sort have become friends of mine. I had three different guys over for Thanksgiving.. I've had people come home with him for lunch, dinner.. spent the night, and if your husband trusts them into your home, you should too. Nobody likes to be alone on the holidays, and it would be appreciated by them so much. Happy Holidays.
EDIT: eleeleven is a sicko...
2006-12-01 18:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while i was in BCT, i met people who came straight from an orphanage.. off someones couch/street, one person had lost his family in an accident which meant there was noone there for him @ home, also i met a guy who got in b/c he was scared for his life from his father.
it seems to me that your husband is caring enough to offer a place to a person that may not know what a famliy is. take it with pride & as a compliment.. but be cautious like a mother will/should be. most of all though: let him know before hand what you think about it.
2006-12-01 17:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well: if he is bringing some one for an visit during a ferlow
then have him introduce you to that person . Because safety
is in greater numbers ! talk with your husband first before making
an final deciding point only
good luck and happy holidays
2006-12-01 14:53:29 · answer #11 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋