my daughter use to sleep throug the night no problem, no she wakes up at 3 am and wants to be put in bed with us. why is she starting this???? our 6 month old sleeps in our room in her own bed ( when we move this month she will have her own room), is my older daughter jelous?? I don't understand why she has started doing this. Please help??!!!!!
2006-12-01 06:14:52 · 8 answers · asked by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
you know something very similar happened to me when i was a kid and my mom used to make my little sis sleep with her while i was transferred to my room but mom did that pretty efficiently i can help you with some points like
1. tell your older daughter that she is the big sis of the younger one.
2. boost her morale by saying "WOW!, you're so big you can do this and the younger one BOO she can't"
3.tell her that she's so big that she has her own room like mommy where as the younger one doesn't
4.shower all your love and affection on her when there comes a new baby the older one sometimes feel neglected , younger one is too small to understand all this so make hay while the sun shines and shower all your love on the older one
5.whenever and whatever work you're doing for the younger one include your older daughter saying"you can help me do this work of your little sister" as she can't do it on her own and you get tired.
all this my mom tried with me and trust me i developed into a loving and caing older sister, you just have to include your daughter in everything you do for the younger sibling, you know you can keep showing her your examples as mothers are usuualy the best example for little girls and they always look up to their mom for help and want to be like them too...
hope it helps
2006-12-01 08:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by t_k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably very jealous and also misses sleeping in your room. She must have recently gotten old enough to have a perception of where she is sleeping and for the first time she has a preference about it. If you indulge her by putting her in the bed once she will want it every time. Best to just silently carry her back and put her in her own bed *without interacting* with her. You don't want to reward disruptive behavior with attention. Eventually she will get tired of coming to your room to see if *just this once* it's going to work.
2006-12-01 06:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you are allowing her to sleep in your bed she is not learning that that is not where she is not sopose to sleep. If you are picking her up and putting her into your bed then she is getting her way you need to kiss her and put her back in her bed tell her she is a big girl now and big girls sleep in their own beds and then leave the room and leave her to cry.. She will go back to sleep she may be tired and cranky the next day but she will go to sleep that night and if she doesn't she will eventually learn that mommy and daddy are not going to pick her up anymore and she will go to sleep
2006-12-01 06:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son who is almost 3 yrs old, has started doing this...only HE wants me to come "nap" with him in his big boy bed! He was sleeping through the night while in the crib...and when he got the big boy bed...he started doing this! I don't think it's jealousy just a comfort zone to her...she knows where mommy is and wants to be near you...I believe she'd still do it...even if the baby wasn't in your room!! They out grow it...Our 5 yr old did...
2006-12-01 06:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get ever one in their own room(If possible) I went through this and the only way to brake this habit is to let them stay in their bed. If you have to lay in bed with then till they go to sleep.
P.S. She didn't start anything, you did. you have to end it.
2006-12-01 06:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by jjshosh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be getting a bit jealous. She may also be getting anxious about your upcoming move. New house and new surroundings may have her a bit freaked out. She may also need some one on one time with you guys if you are spending a lot of time packing and she doesn't feel like she getting her share of time with you.
2006-12-01 06:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of older siblings getting jealous and wanting to be "babied" more... I have heard of the extent of any potty training even just being basically "forgotten." Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 06:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be , she thinks the baby has taken all of the attention away from her
2006-12-01 06:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by helgerti 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋