I am 30 years old and from age 15, I have been in 2 long term relationships. I have never really "dated". Anytime my current ex and I went out, I paid for it all because he was always broke. I have no idea how to date. What is the proper etiquette? Should I expect him to pay? If I ask him out, should I pay my own way? How do I let him know without sounding mean that I expect for him to pay for the date...and that it does not mean I "owe" him anything? I feel like if he pays for the date, he is going to try to "get some" and that is definately not what I want. I keep running into these "What are you gonna do for me?" guys who think just because they bought me dinner or a drink then I should sleep with them. Please tell me what to do because I am terrified of dating, but I won't get over my ex if I don't get out there and meet new people. Thanks.
2006-12-01 06:13:56 · 3 answers · asked by Lovely s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe the man should always do the pursuing. And the paying. I don't believe in casual dating. What's the point? If you don't want to be cheap, make him make the effort to win you. A guy likes the challenge of wooing a girl. If you come easy, they expect you to be easy. If you are a challenge, they'll be more inclined to do the right thing.
Why do you need to date to be ok with yourself?? I think it is important to be ok with yourself or you enter into a romance with needs and that isn't healthy. Both parties should enter in with the ability to give, not the expectation to take.
2006-12-01 06:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You, only ou, can set the standard on a date. If you feel better paying, then do it...personally I believe the guy should pay - the girl should offer occasionally... and pay occasionally, insist on it. A man should not e xpect to get some just for dinner and a drink.... he should expect to get some after earning it! Women HAVE what men innately desire, need, want and dream about... make them work for it! (By the way, women can buy dinner and a drink and expect 'some' too without attachments or guilt!!) Play the field very cautiously. Don't look for a new husband/boyfriend immediately. Definitely do not find another sponge boyfriend. You need someone to show YOU a good time, pay for it all and expect companionship that MAY lead to love, passion, and a relationship etc.... You don't have to stick with a loser. Be strong.... be stronger... respect yourself. YOURE A WOMAN for goodness sake!!!
2006-12-01 14:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by TRE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nowadays, the person who asks for the date is expected to pay, but it's always ok for the guest to offer to pay, or offer to split the check. Sounds like what you could really use is a big dose of confidence. Maybe try one of those speed-dating gigs to get you back in the game!
2006-12-01 14:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋