i need relationship help?

Question

i and my gf have been dating for a while now she's honest and i love her so much.. but just recently she's told me about her past and the things she's done with her x boyfriend "fingered and eaten me out" now i know it's not that serious but i see her x almost everyday and everytime i see him i think of what she told me then i start to picture them 2 and it just kills me i don't know why it shouldn't really matter because it's all in the past but how do i make this stop i just need it to end righ tnow i can't take it anymore

Answer 1

You just do that stuff to her and then youll have those memories.()

Answer 2

I am in your similar situation but I told my boyfriend things sort of like that. We have been together over two years and he really never knew my past except i really didn't date alot, i was experienced, and i was also hurt. One day i really felt it was the time to tell him about it all. I didn't go into explicit detail but he got the point. He knows the guy but fortunately he does not see him everyday. I didn't apologize for anything because it was before we started dating and i really wasn't sorry for it. If your girlfriend is like me she probably loves you and that's why she told you, maybe to break whatever barrier she thought that information was holding. I think it was releasing for her to tell you that because it was a huge weight of her shoulders. You should respect her for that and not judge by any means you don't have that authority. Now what you should do know is make your own happy memorys with her and not think about her past, as you probably don't want her to think about yours. Also think about the reasons why you fell in love with her in the first place, it didn't have anything to do with guys from her past, am I correct? Think about those things and the way she makes you happy and all the good thing in your relationship. It is important to know you are ok with who she is and who she was. Thats what love is. I hope this helps you ease your pain. God Bless.

Answer 3

If she trusted you enough to tell you then you are very special to her and she loves you a lot. Now ask yourself this... Have you done those things to another girl? Are you picturing doing them? You have a past and she has a past, make memories together. Remember acts of Sex are not necessarily acts of love. Was it just sex with those 2 or was she at the time in love with him? Maybe she is also trying to give you hints as what she likes and doesn't like in the bedroom. And if worse comes to worse turn your thinking around and make the images work for you and turn her on while it turns you on. Some guys like to see things happening to there girls as long as they are there, it turns them on. But just remember she is with you now and if that meant something to her she wouldn't be with you, now would she? Good Luck, I think she wants to be with you tho'.

Answer 4

My opinion about this is that you're just overreacting a bit.
It's past, as you said yourself, and they're not together anymore. That's the only thing that matters. She's with you now.
If we all looked at it that way, we would never be able to move on. :)
Just relax and let it go. She loves you and that's the bottom line.
Think of that every time the "haunting" thoughts come to your head.
Hope everything works out well.

Answer 5

Stop thinking about it. It has nothing to do with you and her now and why would you even let her tell you something like that. Me and the guy I'm dating were talking last night and I mention how I enjoyed the single life for a while and he told me that he didn't even want to know what my single life was like. Somethings are just better left unsaid, because we try not to judge people, but we do.

Answer 6

Look, as long as this ex isn't "eaten her" and "fingering" her anymore, just let it go. She really shouln't be telling you all this to begin with. Sounds like she's trying to give you a hint that this is what she wants from you now that you're the boyfriend.

Answer 7

I understand what you are going through. I don't know why she felt she had to tell you all this. Try talking to her and let her know that this information bothers you alot. If you can work past it, make your own memories with her. If you can't get past it, it might be best to go your separate ways, even just for a break. I'm sorry to hear you are going through this torment.

Answer 8

well just like u said it is in the past. u know they say that there are some things that better stay unsaid because of the consequences. u have to fight it and stop thinking about it every time u see the ex. just get over it.

Answer 9

Who is she with? Him or you? You. So obviously, he wasn't that good at it.

Did you think maybe she told you this because she would like to receive more of the same *from you*, if you don't currently do that?

If you don't have to see him, don't. If you do... well, In any event I'd just smile every time I saw him. You've got her and he couldn't keep her. He's probably a jerk.

Answer 10

Serious jealousy issues but its cool cuz i have them too but man ain't nothing you can do about just live with it and keep it inside it will make you stronger in the end don't freak out i would imagine you have a past too pimp

Answer 11

And you've never done anything with anouther girl? It's just part of life. If she's not cheating, then it's no big deal.

My gf has told me about stuff she's done with other guys, and I've met some of them. It's not a big deal.