I'm the oldest of three girls, one sister lives two hours from me and the other lives 3000 miles away. My sister that lives the farthest away always makes it out to visit us during the holidays. And she usually stays at my house because we are closest to the airport and we have the room for her. This causes problems with my other sister whom lives two hours away, she never says it but she implies that it's not fair. Should I stay out of it and let the other two solve this on their own? It's a very touchy subject and I really don't know how to keep the peace.....
2006-12-01 06:05:14 · 9 answers · asked by Ann G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them to grow up. They're your sisters, why can't you just tell them how you feel? I tell my sister exactly how I feel, and I don't sugar coat it.
2006-12-01 06:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It isn't your responsibility to keep the peace. All three of you should want to spend time together and enjoy each other's company. You need to ask the "closer" sister straight out if she thinks it is unfair and , if so, what is her solution to make it fair for everyone? The simple fact is, if she has a problem, it is her responsibility to come up with a solution. You do what you feel is fair unless someone shows you that there is a better way.
2006-12-01 06:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by flamailguy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a drag! i think that the sister who lives farthest away has the right to stay at your house...i could however, be wrong about this. can't they share the room? that would be way fun. they could reminisce, catch up on each other, etc. maybe if it gets too touchy a problem, they can alternate who stays at your place each year...draw straws, etc.
i gave up having xmas with family...as in my siblings, many years ago...it was just too dysfunctional and stressful. and 3 of them live in the same small town as i do! so my kids and i have just been hanging together every year...omg, we have so much fun and it's so stress free!! hope you have a great holiday.
2006-12-01 06:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, it's your sister from 3000 miles away's choice to stay at your house for convenience reasons. If she chooses not to stay with your other sister, there's really nothing you can do about it. Maybe you could suggest that your closer sister and her family come and stay at your house over the holidays too (provided you have enough room for everybody), so you can all share the season together under one roof.
2006-12-01 06:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the 3 of you need to sit down face to face. Maybe you are all assuming things about the others. Does everyone see each other? Do all of you go to the 2-hr sisters, does she come to yours, what is it that is not fair exactly? Maybe if everyone is out in the open, then it will work itself out. If the 2-hr sis just wants the 3k mile one to stay with her, then maybe she will just have to get over that ...3k should stay where its most convenient..esp if she is traveling with kids. The holidays are rough sometimes...best wishes.
2006-12-01 06:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the jealous sister to come over and camp out with you or shut up.
2006-12-01 06:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by tom_nearhood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people in a small space is mostly the reason.
2006-12-01 06:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Greg P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To keep peace you stay out of it.()
2006-12-01 06:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Saint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must resolve any issues your family have to come together peacefully
2006-12-01 06:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋